marrage at the age of 16

    • marrage at the age of 16

      me and my boyfriend have talked about what it would be like to have a kid and get married and get a house and stuff like that. We have been together for almost 5 months and we know we want to be together. we started having sex about a month or 2 ago and we now think i might be pregnant, i am going in for a blood test to confirm it tommorrow. i live with my aunt and uncle and we told them we think were pregnant and showed them the test and they said they dont want me to live there if im pregnant, they also think that it is wrong for us to be having a child and not be married. we all have talked about it and have decided that its the best thing that we get married, move in together, and raise the child. Is it okay that i am worried of what people (like my friends) will say about me and my boyfriend getting married and moving in together????
      ~Brandie~ :)

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      I don't think 2 16 year olds could take on a role like this. There is more to it then getting married and moving intogether and raising the child. You have to think of how much things cost as well. A 16 year old, who most likely has no College education, nor any skilled trade couldn't make enough income to support a family. That would be my biggest concern, minus the immature part.

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      I think it's a bad idea. At age 16 you are not emotionally mature enough to handle marriage or a child.

      I know a girl who is 16 years old, married, and about 6 months pregnant. She always acts like everything is just perfect, but one day she totally broke down on me. She told me that deep inside she really regrets getting married and having a kid so early. She said she feels like she never got the chance to be a teenager because she jumped into adult situations so early in life. Through this, she has ended up feeling a certain resentment towards her husband.

      Her story is actually really sad. So please, don't let it happen to you. If you and this guy love each other and know you want to be together, then you should be more than willing to wait until you're both old enough and mature enough, not to mention financially stable. :)

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      My mum got married when she was 17, but there's a huge difference, the age of my dad he was estable in his job, etc.
      Though think about it. You will have to pay rent of an apartment, electricity, etc. You'll also need money to but appliances for that aparment, then there's the baby, etc.
      No, bad idea.
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      the thing is that my sister had a child when she was my age and i ended up raising her and i felt like her mother because her REAL mother only wanted her so when ppl came around she could act. i cant get an abortion because i dont think that its right and i will not give it up for adoption because i will not later in life say that i want to know my child NOW when i could have raised it myself and nown it its hole life, he also has a say in things and he feels along with me that we should keep it. the marrage thing my aunt and uncle,his parents,my parents, and me and him think its wrong if we dont get married because then the baby will be around a healthier envierment and it will make it harder for him to "walk out" on us if he ever did decide to think about that. he just turned 18 so he can make more money and i am looking for a job now, he feels that when the baby come i should not be working because he feels that he should be the one that brings in the money because he is a part of mine and will be a part of the babys life and that he wants to see me when he gets home from work every night and not come home to an empty house because im home dduring the day taking care of the baby and then at work at night and because i am going to finish school he feels it would be too much pressure on me if i have to go to school,work, and do things around the house will he only goes to work. I just want to know if its okay to be scared about people i care about to think im a disapointment. we didnt mean for this to happen and we know we have to live with whatever we do for the rest of our lives and thats why we want to make the right one now. also we would be sharing an apartmant with his father, so we would only be paying for half the stuff to make things a little easier, his mother wants really nothing to do with us of the baby, we both have to be a part of this childs life and we feel that we should be together for it than apart.
      ~Brandie~ :)

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      You shouldn't worry about what other people think. Right now you should be worrying more about the baby, and what kind of like your going to give him/her. This should have been thought about before you started having sex as well. It's going to be hard, really hard. I make almost $3,000 a week living in the south and I have a pregnant Wife at home. It's still not easy.

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      The One wrote:

      I make almost $3,000 a week living in the south and I have a pregnant Wife at home. It's still not easy.


      How can you be struggling? Like somebody else said, that's about 150k a year. My father took care of himself, my mother, three kids, and two grand kids on 100k fairly easily, we had a decent amount of spending money (and for the record, we live in the south as well). That's crazy if you're struggling on 150k.

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      5 months at the age of 16?
      wow, big mistake in my opinion, but hey.

      at the end of the day, if you love him that much, and KNOW this is the right decision and a good thing for you, why do you care what your friends would say, and why are you asking an internet forum if it's a good thing.

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      5 months is nothing..really, it's not! fair enough if you're pregnant and you're adamant you want to keep it then have it, but don't get married! it might only encourage the father to walk out on yopu even more because your both young so he might feel tied down and want to escape.

      You even said a reason for you wanting to get married is so that he has less chance of walking out on you, well you just said it yourself really, you obviosuly don't think your relationshiop is going to last a lifetime, so why brign a baby into it and get married?

      It's not hard to see what everyone else views on this are ^, take it on board.
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      No marriage or babies to keep, not at 16. I am a 17 yr old and have a gf but say no for babies and marriage! There is way too mcuh to do before that responsiblity...And having a baby? Kids raising kids doesnt work! If u are pregnant put it up for adoption for its own good Sorry but this is all happening and u are too young. Even the fact that u got pregnant shows ur immaturity! My gf and I use contraception that works and will have NO babies for 10 years at least!
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      backalleyabortions wrote:

      How can you be struggling? Like somebody else said, that's about 150k a year. My father took care of himself, my mother, three kids, and two grand kids on 100k fairly easily, we had a decent amount of spending money (and for the record, we live in the south as well). That's crazy if you're struggling on 150k.


      Oh, I'm not struggling. 150k in the South is very good money. Especially for a 23 year old expecting his first kid. My bills total up to less than $2,100 a month as of right now. But knowing me, and my wife, we will spend loads on the baby. I'm just saying that a 16 yr old isn't going to be able to make good money, by no means. I dont care what they say. So it wouldn't be a good idea to get married and move in together. Let your parents take care of you and the baby.

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      The One wrote:

      Especially for a 23 year old

      You're a bit old for Teenhut, aren't you? :wink:

      How can I say this...I'm sorry but I think you've made an awful mistake. If you are pro-life in the abortion debate, and then you get yourself a baby at your age with someone you've been with for 5 months.

      I wouldn't get married just because of a baby. Get married when you think you're ready. Same with moving out.

      Good luck.
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      Esmo wrote:

      You're a bit old for Teenhut, aren't you? :wink:

      How can I say this...I'm sorry but I think you've made an awful mistake. If you are pro-life in the abortion debate, and then you get yourself a baby at your age with someone you've been with for 5 months.

      I wouldn't get married just because of a baby. Get married when you think you're ready. Same with moving out.

      Good luck.


      So i take it as soon as you turn 20 your leaving this site? Didn't think so, maybe you should stick to topic

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      i cant let my parents do that!! they did that with my older sister and she treats them with no respect and makes the fact that she got pregnant their fault i will not put this on my parents!!!! besides i think im going to have a miscaraige because the doctors said that my HCG levels are low and i've been bleeding badly so he knows that im going to have one. this is making me so depressed i want this baby to live!!!
      ~Brandie~ :)