I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

    • I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

      Last month was me and my boyfriend's 2nd year anniversary. A week before the exact date I was thinking on whether or not to make an occasion out of it, but was a little unsure as due to certain issues we weren't able to celebrate our 1st year last year. So I thought "If he says anything about it, then yeah why not do something but if he doesnt' then let's not"

      So the day came ... and went and now one month later my boyfriend called me up because we were planning to hang out together some time that week and during the conversation he fell silent. Next thing you know I hear

      "I'm SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO sorry. I just realized something!"
      "What?"
      "Our anniversary was last month ... Oh god, I'm sorry. I didn't mean to forget"
      "It's okay ... really, don't worry about it"

      I didn't get mad at him or anything. Actually I was laughing so hard when he apologized because it was so random when he brought it up. We were talking about Ragnarok Online when he stopped and said that so ... it was pretty random.

      When I told this to my friend she said 'what an asshole! Forgetting it like that! You should be mad at him and tell him how upset it makes you to have him forget!' but it doesn't make me upset. Actually, I was very amused at the time.

      So, this brings up a question. Should we celebrate it anyways even though it's like ... a month late? I don't really care if we do or don't but ... gee if we do decide to I'm totally stuck on what to do.
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    • Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

      Your friend isn't a part of your relationship, so she has no say in how you should feel about the situation. If you aren't upset, that's fine. Just means that you are a very understanding girlfriend =] And besides, you didn't bring it up either so for all he knows you forgot too! Not a big deal.
      I think you should celebrate. Nothing fancy, maybe even just a movie or something.

    • Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

      ishinebrighterr wrote:

      Your friend isn't a part of your relationship, so she has no say in how you should feel about the situation.


      True, her friend might not be apart of the relationship, but it's not rare for friends to give their opinion on certain matters. Everyone is free to that.

      So, this brings up a question. Should we celebrate it anyways even though it's like ... a month late? I don't really care if we do or don't but ... gee if we do decide to I'm totally stuck on what to do.


      That's totally up to you, really every day is a celebration just for the fact that it's turned out to be a wonderful relationship, assuming that due to the fact that you two have been together for so long.

      In all honesty I don't think it matters whether you do or not, you're both happy right now, that's what matters.

    • Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

      It doesn't matter if one or both of you forgot it. It';s nice to be able to celebrate those miletones, but one day shouldnt mean more than the rest of your realtionship toegther, if I was you, I'd just use it as an excuse to go out for a nice meal or something together.
      Nicole = Happiest she's been in a long time:lovey:

    • Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

      People actually keep track of the date in which they got in a relationship?

      So if I got a girlfriend, then a year later exactly, I should be all "zomg anniversary."

      ?

      captain_kurenai wrote:

      When I told this to my friend she said 'what an asshole! Forgetting it like that! You should be mad at him and tell him how upset it makes you to have him forget!' but it doesn't make me upset. Actually, I was very amused at the time.

      So, this brings up a question. Should we celebrate it anyways even though it's like ... a month late? I don't really care if we do or don't but ... gee if we do decide to I'm totally stuck on what to do.

      Several points.

      -Your friend isn't part of your relationship so, you don't need her to think and have opinions for you.

      -Is it always the guy's duty to bring up anniversaries? If it isn't, and neither of you bring it up, then both of you are equally at fault.

      -Whether you celebrate this "anniversary" a month later is really between you and your boyfriend, and not us.

      Neal C.