Well, if it gets down to it, if he truly doesn't care, then I don't think you should stress about it. It's up to the person alone to motivate themselves and choose what they want to shoot for/accomplish in life. If he's fine with who he is right now, then just leave it be. But, if you notice that it's causing him to act depressed, angry, frustrated etc. Then by all means, do what you can to motivate him.
On the other hand I admire your passion to care about someone else like that, never lose that quality.

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Hey hun! OK, so I went over to Fergus’ place for lunch, and we just talked and joked about by the dinner table. Then I got on the subject of him doing some cardio and stretching like you suggested. I tried to explain it in the same amount of detail as you did, but I think I confused him a little heehee. I suggested as nicely as I could that he had gotten a bit pudgier over the summer, but he didn’t believe me and even lifted his shirt up to try and prove me wrong or something, but I think it proved me right more than anything. His tummy looked a bit inflated and was bulging a bit over his jean waistline, so he certainly didn’t look healthy. He told me that he had just eaten two bacon sandwiches for lunch and drank a few glasses of coke, so that was why his belly was looking a bit bloated. I kinda believed him, because Fergus does tend to pig out a bit during his meals. This next part made me feel really awkward, but I pinched a bit of fat on his tummy because someone on my thread mentioned something about if you can squeeze more than 2cm of fat, you need to lose some weight. Well, either way, even though I did get quite a bit of the soft squishy stuff between my fingers, he just said it was puppy fat and told me I was worrying too much about him, let his shirt fall back down and began munching on some crisps.

What do you think? Should I just leave him to do whatever he likes? I mean, he has put on the pounds over summer and gotten fairly pudgy, but I’d only say he's chubby, not dangerously obese or anything. Or am I right in being concerned about his health? Fergus and I have been friends for years and I really hope I haven’t become that annoying neurotic friend you see in the movies that won’t stop bugging everyone, but I feel so frustrated that he’s let his fitness go down the drain like that and isn’t doing anything about it. I don’t know if you’ve ever felt like this before, but I hope you can help with any advice.

Lots of Love,
Lissa xx

Hey hun, wow you know alot! I'll try to have a word with him about doing cardio, stretching and weight training and I'll let you know how it goes!

Thanks for all the help! You've been fantastic!

Lots of Love,
Lissa xx

Well, "fat" is really hard to define, because if you don't get activity you have low amounts of HDL cholesterol which is not very healthy. Fat with higher amounts of HDL cholesterol is healthy. It's this reason alone that girls and guys who are 10-20 pounds underweight still think they're overweight because their fat has a disgusting quality to it. As for blatantly telling him too loose weight, it's kind of harsh, but sometimes people need the push to motivate themselves. Get the sense of proving someone else wrong.
He doesn't need to play a sport to tone his body up. A balance of both cardio, stretching, and a little weight training can go a LONG way for health. Combination of all those increases the effeciency of your heart by 3 times than somebody who does none of that. Lowers your resting heart rate. Increases the rate at which blood pumps around your body and also increases your bone density. (The list can go on forever)

And you can't honestly tell how much he REALLY smokes, unless you can monitor him all day. His body won't be able to physically and mentally handle the strain of getting back in shape if his lung capacity is significantly reduced by smoking. Even worse, you need to dedicate yourself to eating healthy, and learning about protein, complex carbs, fibre, etc etc to properly fuel your body.
Regarding the puppy fat thing, the kids I cycle and run with (15-16) have nowhere near any baby fat left, pretty much toned beasts.

Hey hun, thanks for the advice! I'm not sure about his sleeping patterns, but ever since the whole forcefeeding incident, I've been assuring him that he's not fat at all, thinking it was the right thing to do. But because of that, he's become a bit lazy and eats as much as he likes. Do you think maybe I should tell him he that he's gotten a bit chubby and could stand to lose a few pounds? That might kickstart him into doing some exercise, but I don't want to hurt his feelings. I know he's a bit pudgy around his face and belly, but puppy fat is healthy at his age right? Hope you've been well, hun!

Lots of Love,
Lissa xx

Ouch, =/ that's a lot of things to factor into his health. It'd be even worse if he got any lack of sleep on top of that, I don't think you should encourage any of the behavior if it negatively affects him. Talk with him, be blunt about it. Or maybe try to get him into ANY type of hobby? <3

Hey hun, sorry for such a late reply, I didn't know you could have private messages and things like that

Yes, Fergus does smoke a bit. I've tried to get him to quit, but he says his other friends do it, so it's all right for him to do it too. He used to get a lot of activity done, but ever since he stopped playing for the school soccer team, I guess he doesn't do much exercise. I'm not sure about his eating habits, but I do know that his favourite food is a bacon sandwich! He always asks me to make one of those for him whenever he comes over.

Lots of Love,
Lissa xx

and btw, just because somebody doesn't "look" fat, doesn't mean they're healthy. He smokes as well right? doesn't get activity, and eats unhealthy right...?

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