Pregnancy

MasterMayhem · 05-22-2011, 11:27 PM

Tessa, please, calm down. I don't recall insulting you ONCE today. If I have, please quote me. You are throwing a hissy fit now by getting far too worked up. Take some deep breaths and just calm down. I am not the one getting you stressed out. You are allowing yourself to be stressed. If this is too much for you, I advise taking a break from the computer and doing something that will calm you.
I am asking you various questions so that I know what your intentions are so that I may be able to help you further. None were phrased as insults.

And that's a good idea. Very cost effective. Just ensure that they are very very clean. Babies are messy, and seem to love putting everything in their mouth. You wouldn't want any thing dangerous entering such a vulnerable area.

TessaBlaire · 05-22-2011, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by ~Fallen~*Angel*

Actually, it's more than her life now. It's her baby's life, her boyfriend's life, her boyfriend's mother's life, ect. Having a baby means no more "me" for quite some time.

Speaking of the boyfriend, is he prepared? In the event something does happen to you(death during pregnancy, illness, ect) is he ready and willing to take on caring for a child by himself? Has he been reading those baby books with you? He's going to be a big part of this kid's life too, after all.

Implying that Jack won't be a good dad.

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Originally Posted by ~Fallen~*Angel*

That's debatable.

Saying that if I'm not ready to have the baby and that I shouldn't have let the pregnancy go this far.

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Originally Posted by ~Fallen~*Angel*

Her body + her baby's body. You seem to keep forgetting that.
And keep in mind she's only 14. Maybe a little mature in some ways, but still a kid none the less. We all make mistakes and poor choices.

Saying that I've made mistakes and poor choices.

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Originally Posted by ~Fallen~*Angel*

If you are so sure you're going to be a great mother(which is kind of iffy, considering your past and what your mother was like, and how you seem to be on the same road she's on) then have you looked into any organizations that help pregnant teens in getting through the pregnancy, and then how to handle the baby after it's born? Talked to any sort of counselor, support group, Obstetricians or anything? Or do you just intend to pop out the baby and automatically know what to do?
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Saying that I'm like my mum, WHICH I'M NOT.

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Originally Posted by ~Fallen~*Angel*

Yes, but that can also be bad for the baby. She'll miss out of very valuable bonding time with her mom, and you may find that she is not very attached to you and, if she spends too much time away from you, may have difficulty identifying you as her proper mother.

Implying that I'm irresponsible enough to not bond with Skye.

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Originally Posted by ~Fallen~*Angel*

Exactly. School is important, but once you have a baby, she's got to be your number one priority above all else. Your mother made the same mistake, just not with school. At such a rate, in about 15 years or so, your daughter may be on a forum posting a very similar thing.
Life isn't always going to work out how you want or plan for it to. Remember that.
You have to be flexible and willing to practically bend over backwards.

Saying that I'm making the same mistakes my mum did.

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Originally Posted by ~Fallen~*Angel*

Tessa, please, calm down. I don't recall insulting you ONCE today. If I have, please quote me. You are throwing a hissy fit now by getting far too worked up. Take some deep breaths and just calm down. I am not the one getting you stressed out. You are allowing yourself to be stressed. If this is too much for you, I advise taking a break from the computer and doing something that will calm you.
I am asking you various questions so that I know what your intentions are so that I may be able to help you further. None were phrased as insults.

And that's a good idea. Very cost effective. Just ensure that they are very very clean. Babies are messy, and seem to love putting everything in their mouth. You wouldn't want any thing dangerous entering such a vulnerable area.

So there's all your insults. I'm not throwing a 'hissy fit' and I'm perfectly calm. You are stressing me out with your insults. This isn't too much for me, I'm just telling you the truth. And FYI I can't take a break from the computer, I'm doing coursework. You're not helping me. At all.

MasterMayhem · 05-22-2011, 11:47 PM

Assuming that I am implying something does not mean I am insulting you. If anything, you are insulting yourself.

I never implied that Jack wouldn't be a good father. Many fathers-to-be neglect to look up the important information necessary for raising a child. My father didn't, and he almost had to raise me on his own. He got very lucky, though, but I can assure you, he was far more keen to start reading baby books as my sister came along.

I didn't say you weren't ready to have a baby or anything of the sort. My exact words were, "That's debatable." Which is true. Even if you weren't ready to take care of the baby, would you really just stop the pregnancy? (abortion) I was fairly certain even you wouldn't do such a thing.

And you have made mistakes and poor choices. That's not an insult, that's a fact. We all have. Every single one of us. You did things that weren't very good for a girl your age, though there were other options. It's okay though. If you never made a mistake or a poor choice, you would never learn. We've all made mistakes. You aren't perfect, and neither are any of us. We aren't God.

I never said you are like your mom. If you are going to quote me, it's best to use my exact words rather than making up your own. I said that you are in danger of being on the same path as your mom. That is simply because you seem just a bit too keen on underage sex, smoking, drugs, ect. When someone is so accepting and okay with it, there is always a danger they could go back. I never said you WILL be like your mom, but anything is possible.

I never implied such a thing. I simply warned against handing your baby off to too many care-takers. Bonding in the first few years of your child's life is very very important. School may have to come second to that. Surely you can locate an online school where you can study at home or some such thing?

That last one really isn't an insult, though you seem very willing to make it one. I was simply stating that it seems as though you are putting school first and the baby second. I don't know you. I can't reach into your mind and see what your true intentions are. All I have to go off of is what you post, and that's what it seemed like you were saying. I could be wrong. Your mother seemed to make such a mistake with drugs. Instead of putting her baby first, she put her happiness and drugs first.

And if you are doing coursework, why be on here at the same time? Should you not be more focused on school that some little website? I'm afraid it seems that you are stressing yourself out more than I am. Close the window that you have this forum open on and forget about it for a while. Take a break from this thread if not from the computer. ^.^

Citky · 05-22-2011, 11:58 PM

>implying that's the correct way to imply

TessaBlaire · 05-23-2011, 12:51 AM

Fallen Angel, you're not helping me. You're not helping my baby. Please just leave me alone, I don't want your comments.

MasterMayhem · 05-23-2011, 12:54 AM

Please explain how I am not helping you? For future reference, of course. It seems as though you refuse my help more than the idea that I'm not trying to help your baby.

TessaBlaire · 05-23-2011, 01:10 AM

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Originally Posted by ~Fallen~*Angel*

Please explain how I am not helping you? For future reference, of course. It seems as though you refuse my help more than the idea that I'm not trying to help your baby.

You've insulted me (if not in my earlier quotes then before) and you're not helping Skye. Also, you assume I won't know anything about babies.

Alice · 05-23-2011, 01:15 AM

You've given me so much confidence in having a teen pregnancy myself, I just need to find a willing father

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Citky · 05-23-2011, 01:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Alice

You've given me so much confidence in having a teen pregnancy myself, I just need to find a willing father

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That can be arranged

Bastard · 05-23-2011, 01:28 AM

No one thinks doing any of those things is fine.

TessaBlaire · 05-23-2011, 01:33 AM

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Originally Posted by alice

you've given me so much confidence in having a teen pregnancy myself, i just need to find a willing father

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llollipop · 05-23-2011, 01:45 AM

Tessa you okay? He left u alone n stopped insulting you now?

MasterMayhem · 05-23-2011, 01:53 AM

I am afraid you are incorrect Tessa. I am not assuming anything, you are. And if you don't want people judging you for your past, why are you going to judge them for theirs? Yes, I insulted you previously. But I have not done so today. I don't find any amusement in it anymore and now just want to help the baby.

I am trying to help Skye, but you are not letting me. There is a rather significant difference.

TessaBlaire · 05-23-2011, 01:56 AM

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Originally Posted by ~Fallen~*Angel*

I am afraid you are incorrect Tessa. I am not assuming anything, you are. And if you don't want people judging you for your past, why are you going to judge them for theirs? Yes, I insulted you previously. But I have not done so today. I don't find any amusement in it anymore and now just want to help the baby.

I am trying to help Skye, but you are not letting me. There is a rather significant difference.

I'm not judging anyone for their past. I don't want you involved with my pregnancy and Skye's life.

MasterMayhem · 05-23-2011, 02:03 AM

But you are. You dislike me for something I posted in the past, do you not?