desperate and lonely

[depression]

ik the fact that desperate= clingy= annoying= unhappy relationship but i cant seem to shake the feeling off been through many relationships and 2 girls in my life i rly loved or thought i did and both left me cold scared and confused i dont get the point of life anymore im always sad unhappy and lonely sometimes wen i notice i havent been texted all day i even break my phone in frustration ive went through like6 i just dont get it anymore and i want to move on but idk how i used to think finding another would help but girls just put me down and hurt me in long run im a loving compassionate guy sometimes i get too emotional i guess but i have went into a deseparate stage and idk where to go or what to do need help and a directioin iv dug a hole i cant get out of. one day i was texting my ex and it was ldr anyways and we brokeup because of distance apparently till i get a car and all that so then she is texting me and we get in argument and at the end she goes you wanna know why idc anymore? and i said why? and she goes cuz i never loved you at all if i had then we would still be together and i would care. then she started telling me to say something and i was ignoring so finally i said well i did love you and i did care goodbye for good and she sends me this long message saying that she did love me and she does care and that the reason she said it was just to get me mad.
i am a very laid bak guy wen it comes to relationships i have never gone off on her at all ever since we started dateing and yet she always never had a problem telling me off and makeing me feel bad idk what i see in her but anyways i treat her like an angel and yet she treats me like this so this is why im deseperate and alone feel outta place what should i do?

[Nickb426]

This sounds like you jsut had a lot of very bad luck with this, and it's not your fault. Just don't give up; there will definitely be someone out there for you. My advice will be kept brief, so that you don't misinterpret it, and it seems like a surprisingly simple situation.
1) Don't be desperate and go for the first girl that is hot; take your time, and you will be rewarded.
2) While you wait, find something to use your time that doesn't involve girlfriends: music, art, books, anything. If you're lucky, you could meet someone in this way.
3) Tell her how you feel early on next time. Even if she doesn't feel the same way then, chances are higher that she will soon share feelings. This may not apply, but it worked for me.
4) Don't be annoying/desperate. Luck will find you, and things will get better. There is no need to rush anything, and doing that will both turn girls away and not show who you truly are as a person.

Good luck!!!

[depression]

thank you hopefully i can pull through

[Ash565]

For one, if that girl really loved you she wouldn't have said that in the first place.
I feel what you feel, trust me.. I have a better story.
A guy i thought loved me for 3 years broke up with me 3 days after my graduation for another girl. We were still sleeping around though and one night after he said he wanted me back and i believe him got me pregnant and after i left for virginia completely blocked me from his life saying he made a mistake and didn't want me. When i came home, he came over to talk but we ended up doing the same thing and again after that he completely treated me like i was nothing, saying i was boring him. So after sometime went by we tried again and once again he left me. I was never happy at school (we started attending the same college before then we lived 30 minutes away from each other while in higschool) he would never talk to me days and weeks and months past my stomach got bigger and i grew weaker and i wanted to die. I was afraid to tell me my mom because she would kill me. No one would talk to me, i stopped keeping my appearance up and felt lonely everyday. But after my mom found out and accepted i was gonna have a baby at 18 i got stronger and things got better. Now he wants to be there for his child and i refuse so hes been paying for everything for disrespecting me. Things will get better. Dont worry be happy

[Gizzie]

loneliness is fundamental to any human.
you just have to come to terms with it.

[Annmarie]

I had an ex just like you. Granted I was the one that was absolutely nothing but caring and loving and he was more....well not a very good boyfriend. We dated four years, he broke up with me every three months so that he could sleep with someone else and it wouldn't be considered cheating, he still cheated on me, and ignored me for days. I loved him more than life though so I always took him back. I thought someday it would all stop and i would be enough for him but it didn't. In the five months we have been broken up he became addicted to drugs, found a gf who is an alcoholic and also got her pregnant. I WISH things could have been different for us. But people don't change they just become more of who they really are.

[Dark Sojourn]

I really hope you feel better... But btw Just keep in mind, you could be like me who will NEVER be in a relanship cuz I'm so timid/shy, unassertive, ugly, slow-minded and different. Just appreciate the fact that you did have a boyfriend. You were able too actaully have a bf and that's says a lot of good things about you.

[Annmarie]

You really shouldn't give advice if your basically going to call someone ugly and slow-minded just because you are having troubles.

[Dark Sojourn]

Originally Posted by Annmarie

You really shouldn't give advice if your basically going to call someone ugly and slow-minded just because you are having troubles.

Let me make it very clear where I stand...

1.)I never said she was slow minded or ugly, I said I did... idk where you got the idea that I was making fun of her (can you try to read correctly please, thx ).
2.)So you think a deppressed kid shouldn't try to give advice someone who is having a rough time. Well Im not going to try to change your mind, but I believe us depressed teens should sometimes give advice to each other since each one of us actaully knows what it feels to be legitimately deppressed.
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------To the person who started this thread, if I offended you I must sincerely apologize for my choice of words. Please know that I was talking about myself and certainly not you. I'll will try to articulate my opinions better.

---------- Post added at 09:20 PM ---------- Previous post was at 09:14 PM ----------

Correction to typo- I meant to say "I was " not " I did" at the end at 1.

[depression]

well i got through it but now almost in same situation i dont know what im sposed to do just tired of it !!! anyways thank you all for your support means alot

[Pravinhi]

Why you are feeling desperate and lonely only because Your girlfriends left you. then try to improvise yourself and restart your work again. Ask her what was the reason behind and try to swipe out the bad factors accordingly and try for the next one because life doesn't stop.

[Intermission]

Firstly, don't act sad and say you're 'forever alone' cos' you're not. Trust me, someone out there loves you. Don't go by the girls who are hot, the hotter girls are the ones who just play on you. The sweet ones are the ones who have a heart.