Guy likes my girlfriend

MikeNY · 10-24-2012, 04:17 AM

So my girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years. She has this friend who is a guy. He has been through many girl friends and stuff but he has always liked my girlfriend and I've always known this. My gf didn't see it as much but I knew. He's now been single for a little while and he keeps texting my girlfriend and stuff and saying stuff that he shouldn't say to a girl who is in a relationship. I don't know exactly what he says but my gf will just say "he went too far" or something like that. He's really annoying me because he isn't a good friend to her and he keeps saying things to her like hitting on her and stuff and telling her shes so beautiful and he tells her that I'm so lucky to have her. Although I guess that's a compliment I don't like it. I don't want them talking at all but obviously that can't happen because they've been friends for a while. They text a lot and it annoys me whenever I see his name come up on her phone. I've talked to her about this and I say I don't like him or her talking to him but she says she doesn't talk to him much but whenever I hang out with her she's always texting her. I trust her and I know she wouldn't do anything with her but this is just something that makes me so angry. I just want him to be gone for ever. Would something like this annoy you too?

V1NC3 · 10-24-2012, 04:27 AM

You just have to make sure she doesn't develop an emotional relationship with this guy because when she starts to lose emotion for you, you're relationship is done. Just don't go overboard

Ari Gold · 10-24-2012, 06:38 AM

Talk to him man to man. Tell him how it bothers you and how you want him to stop. If he doesn't, beat the hell out of him. He'll stop.

MikeNY · 10-24-2012, 07:00 AM

I barely ever see him. Rarely I do but yea I would like to talk to him and tell him to fxck off already.

Ari Gold · 10-24-2012, 07:19 AM

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Originally Posted by MikeNY

I barely ever see him. Rarely I do but yea I would like to talk to him and tell him to fxck off already.

Does your girlfriend ever hang out with this guy?

MikeNY · 10-24-2012, 09:19 AM

Not that much they just text a lot and it bothers me. But recently she went into the city and met up with him since that's where he goes to school now and she kept it from me but she eventually told me about it. Ever since then the guy keeps like telling her how much he likes her and stuff.

Takumi Usui · 10-24-2012, 10:21 AM

I wouldn't be fine with this, but your going to meet a lot of guys like this that show up. I found that laying low and fighting through the storm is not a good thing. I went up to him and told him I wasn't him comfortable with him blowing up m girls phone. He didn't take it well which led to him saying stuff to my girl about, but she broke off ties with him.

I think standing up to the problem is the best. But i guess it depends how your girl takes it to. In my case my girl was afraid to tell him so I took it in my hands.

Intermission · 10-24-2012, 03:44 PM

Don't let it get to you, don't let her get into any kind of secret relationship with her. Sit down with her and ask her it bothers you, tell her if she would cheat on you, the best way is to talk to her about it.

Bitani · 10-24-2012, 07:06 PM

It doesn't sound like you should be worried, like she knows what she's doing and who's important to her.

But I would kind of be questioning the fact that she went to see him without telling you. (IF that was after all of this one-sided flirting started)

dan123 · 10-25-2012, 01:42 AM

yeah talk to him face to face even if hes a bigger person than you. ive been in your position before and it takes balls to do this but once you do its so good.

Hann. · 10-25-2012, 01:49 AM

Yeah talk to the guy.
I was in your girlfriend's situation before but when i saw my ex, I didn't text the guy at all. Whenever i went over my ex's house, I'd tell the guy or anyone else I was texting that I was over his house so wouldn't text. She shouldn't text him right in front of you, I think that's like rubbing it in your face that another guy has her attention.
Speak to her again and speak to the guy.

JamMo · 10-25-2012, 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Bitani

It doesn't sound like you should be worried, like she knows what she's doing and who's important to her.

I think so too. You said that you trust her so act like you trust her.

MikeNY · 10-26-2012, 12:15 AM

Thanks for all the advice guys. She tells me that they don't talk much but every single time I'm with her I see her texting him. I'm seeing her later tonight and if I see his name one time I'm bringing it up to her. Not that I don't ever bring it up I just need to make sure that she knows that I'm serious about it. And I would talk to him but I don't see him ever but if keeps it up then Ill try to get his number from her or find him on fb.

Jack Havock · 11-01-2012, 12:09 AM

I'm going out with someone who has a similar friend. He's actually my friend to and evidently asked her out before me. Anyway, I would bring it up with your GF that you're concerned about her relationship with this guy. NOT that you think she's cheating on you! Just that you think he doesn't respect her.