Originally Posted by endgame
for future reference. once you break up with someone, unless they are a tight part of your circle of friends cut them out of your life. if you had any ounce of passion in your relationship seeing them day to day is going to tear you to pieces and carrying around old baggage will complicate your future relationships. this "lets just be friends" gig is just people being nice usually.
for example, my girlfriend still talks to her exes. i wish she wouldn't but it's out of my control. two guys that she was /on again/off again/ for a while and are now crying for her back. it complicates our relationship having to deal with this shit and they are not good friends nor were very good to her.
... you will meet a great guy eventually( it's all up to chance, and putting yourself out there helps your chances). maybe date around some other guys that you have been eying and test the waters....
Lol, sometimes people really do want to be friends. It's just... hard. It's cliché, I know.
It's definitely best to end any contact with them, because you'll just keep getting reminded of the grief.
And testing the waters is really essential. Don't go to deep so you can pull out yourself whenever you need to.