First off the reason this all started was because I got pregnant at 14. I am still carrying the babies. I am 8 months pregnant with female twins.

Couple
I told my exboyfriend (we were still dating at the time) when I was 1 months pregnant. He then broke up with me. He said he wasn't ready for a kid. We used protection so don't be lecturin me about that. We decided we were going to put them up for adoption. neither Him or me liked the idea of abortion.
He now wants to keep them. He said these children are as much of him as they are of me. Which they are but I know he won't be the one with full custody. It would be different if we were still together. Then he calls this morning and goes if you don't want to keep both we can just keep one. I was like OMFG! How can you split them up? We are putting them up for adoption. I don't need anymore stress. I seriously don't know what to do.

Family
I live with my mom. She to kicked me out. I told her I was pregnant when I was at the 6 month mark. My mom doesn't talk to me much. My dad doesn't talk to me at all. He says I am not his kid anymore. He has been saying that since I was 2 when my parents broke up -.- My mom said that I have 2 weeks to get out. I don't know where to go. I will probably go live with my older sister who is 21 but I talked to her about last 2 weeks and she said she was in money problems. If I can't go with her I will have nowhere to go.

I mean didn't like abortion *editingf

i don't think either of you should be making decisions about the babies, leave it up to the grownups because you are clearly incapable of doing this, as you keep changing your mind, howver you are still the parents so it's up to you

even though your parents are dissapointed in you they won't see you on the streets, your sister is probably your best bet, but if all else fails go to a friends, or even your ex boyfriends, he should have the decency to give the mother of his kid a home, if not only for the sake of his own children.

you obviously made a stupid mistake and i won't lecture you about it, remember these kids are going to need a stable home and someone who can look after them? are you really sure at 14 on your own you can do this? like you've said you don't think you could so are giving them up for adoption but also remeber you can't change your mind once it's done i can imagine that when you grow up your going to want to be able to look after your own children -but you can't, and you seem to liek changing your mind abotu what to do. You need a serious chat with your mum, your going to haver to do soem growing up within the next few months whether you like it or not

also i don't understand how he could only want to keep one, or even think you would, what happeend to loving both your kids equally? maybe it qould be easy for you, but for me to decide which one stays and which one goes... i couldn't do it

Thanks Nicole. I really don't think I am ready for a kid. We had our hearts set on adoption. Then he wanted to keep them. I am seriously not ready. I am talking to my boyfriend now about how my mom is kickin me out. He said if I can't stay with my sister I can stay with him.

I think if I really had to take these babies in and raise them we would do a good job but we would need help with family. I can't get rid of one. I remember when my cousin who is 17 had her baby she loved it so much. I think it's impossible not to love your baby. There has to be at least a little love for it. But I do need to talk to someone I can trust. Maybe me and my boyfriend can run over to my sister's house and talk to her. She has a 1 year old son and is a great mother. She supports him fairly well

yeh if your sisters had that experience she can advise you but remember no matter how many peoples advice you get, it's your own decision at the end of the day and you've got to do whats right for you not what you've found was right for other people, and well it sounds like you'd like to look after them but you don't think your background is capable of bringing them up, so i'd be a bit wary of giving them up as in a few years everything will change and you'll be thinking right i want my kids , i can look after them now and you got to remember that you can't do that, once you give them up you can't get them back until 18, also thinks whats best for the children, if you physically cannot look after them then adoption is a good idea. Talk things through with your mum , ask her what she's feeling and stuff then you can also tell her everything. It's easy to say oh we can give them up for adoption and the issue will be solved, but when they're born you might feel differently.
by the way is this guy your boyfriend or you ex boyfriend becaus eyou've called him both so i'm confused?

LMAO He is my ex. I am just to lazy to put ex. I am currently single so If I say boyfriend I mean my ex.
I just talked to my mom about everything. She said she knows I feel like I want to get rid of them and keep them at the same time. She said if I did keep them she would help me out. She still doesn't support my pregnancy but she said she would help. I think I am going to run up and talk to my sister too. I can't make up my mind. I know that I can't support them yet. I am 15 now. I have a job and so does my ex boyfriend who just turned 16. I feel so stressed out. I would keep them but I am too worried about how mine and Tyler *my ex* futures are gunna turn out. If I keep them I will most likly end up dropping out of school or planting them on my mom on the days she doesn't work and stick them in a day care for the other days. I go to school from 6:45-2:50 then I work from 3:30 - 8:00. It would cost a lot for them to be in daycare that long so my best thing to do would be adoption. I know I will most likely feel differently though because I will love them so much. Hmm my mom is encouraging for me to keep the babies. She said she could quit her job. She said she wasn't going to offer advice I had to ask for it and that was why she wouldn't talk to me much. *strange*

What can I say except that decison is fairly up to you? No help I can afford. A terminal of choice is more or less the same. If you give them for adoption, you will regain an opportunity for promising future. But children's lives without parental support won't be as expected. However, if you keep them, your future will become highly questionable. Won't be as expected for you but kids will have a normal life in a manner. Incident forces you to make a sacrifice. So, whose happiness worths more?

In all good conscience, the only thing I can say is that keeping only one child is senseless. Either keep or give both. Also, what does his family think of situation?

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