Should I be offended?

Suzieq9109 · 01-09-2008, 03:43 AM

Today was the 2nd gym class. After class today, my coach went up to me and asks me, "How come you don't have any friends in this class?" I was shocked because A) it was a rude thing to ask and B) he didn't know me at all. It really hurt my feelings because it made me feel insecure, like an outcast. The thing is, I am NOT an outcast. I am just quiet and more reserved than most of the other people in my class. Afterall, I can't think of hardly anyone who doesn't like me because I am always nice to everyone. Besides it is a very small class and so there aren't as many people to choose from. Part of me says I have a right to be ofended while the other half of me says I am overreacting. What do you think?

big sal · 01-09-2008, 04:42 AM

hmm only you can answer that maybe he dient mean it in a nasty way just trying to encourage you to talk more maybe im wrong but only you can tell if your offended.

Alex_Rosque · 01-09-2008, 05:45 AM

Well, he sounds like a good teacher because he is trying to encourage everyone in his class to be friendly and nice to each other. He probably noticed you weren't talking to many people or something...

TheFunkyBunch · 01-09-2008, 07:29 AM

No offense, but I think you're really kind of overblowing it. He was just asking why you didn't have many friends in the class. That's it. Don't try to make it into more than it is. lol.

DeLarge · 01-09-2008, 07:59 AM

He sounds like a good teacher. Looking out for his students and stuff. I have a teacher at my school who can tell when I'm really down and I don't even have to say anything. He looks out for me, maybe he's just doing the same for you.

.Angelique. · 01-09-2008, 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Suzieq9109

Today was the 2nd gym class. After class today, my coach went up to me and asks me, "How come you don't have any friends in this class?" I was shocked because A) it was a rude thing to ask and B) he didn't know me at all. It really hurt my feelings because it made me feel insecure, like an outcast. The thing is, I am NOT an outcast. I am just quiet and more reserved than most of the other people in my class. Afterall, I can't think of hardly anyone who doesn't like me because I am always nice to everyone. Besides it is a very small class and so there aren't as many people to choose from. Part of me says I have a right to be ofended while the other half of me says I am overreacting. What do you think?

I'd ask to move classes if it was that bad.

I'd say that " Well I don't really know anyone from here so I find it really hard to get into groups in class. Maybe you have a suggestion on who I can join?"

Ivank · 01-09-2008, 09:32 AM

You shouldnt be. Your teacher sounds like a dickhead.

roxie · 01-09-2008, 09:42 AM

maybe a tad overreacting.
but i wasnt there so its hard to say.

i bet that he didnt mean any offense by it.
he probably was just trying to be encouraging but it came out the wrong way.

--ii-rock-- · 01-10-2008, 12:53 AM

Maby he was just looking out for his students, after all while in his class you are his responsability and if he thinks that people are not getting along, or being left out, ect he will have it on his consiance.

Eternal Amity · 01-10-2008, 01:25 AM

Wow, I dont talk to anyone in my gym either but no teacher has ever said anything to me.

I highly doubt he said it to offend you though.
Dont take offense too it, mkay?
;D

Its your choice when you dont talk to people, and YOU know that, so dont take what he says to heart.

Tina · 01-10-2008, 05:42 AM

I like it that you're honest. I don't think you should feel offended and I also don't think you're overreacting. I think it's normal to feel the way you do in a situation like this. Believe me I have also experienced similar situations and I felt the same way you did. Your coach didn't mean to offend you. It's part of his job to make sure each member of the team is having a good relationship with his team mates. Therefore his question was normal. He was probably worrying about you. Like you said (he doesn't know you yet) just give him some time to do it. He wasn't trying to say your anti-sociable if that's why you feel a bit offended. I'm sure you're a very friendly person.

Toxic_Kitties · 01-11-2008, 09:00 AM

My gym teacher last year MADE me try to make friends, as in "Sarah! Take Randy over there to hang out with you guys" To which they normally said "But she is scary" and I went back to doing my own thing. It just sounds like your teacher is trying to make sure you enjoy the class, I wouldn't worry.

buyuadrink_sexy_emogurl · 01-19-2008, 08:28 PM

I really don't think that he ment it in a mean way, I just think he was asking Why don't you make friends with the gurls in this class, but I think the words came out wrong. But you should tell him how you feel

The Boob Lady · 01-20-2008, 02:05 AM

honestly, it all depends on the tone in which it was said.

there are a lot of quiet people. you aren't the only one.
but from what you said, i would probably take it to mean that he is surprised you have no friends in this class, because, like you said, you're a nice person.
idk.