My family just cant seem to accept my sexuality. Today my older cousin told me he was setting me up with his best friends little brother. He did it before I could answer he called him like a couple of days ago. I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS!!! I mean I know its hard for them but come on I dont wanna go out with a guy. And I have to go now cuz I dont wanna hurt his feelings, I guess I should just tell him but that would be so akward. I mean they are trying to push this on me they are trying to make me straight and that really does hurt. I told my cousin how pissed I was and that I wish he would just accept me because this is who I am. But he just says oh its a phase you'll get over it. Then I told him im in love with a girl and he told me you are just confused. Gahhh I just can't help but feel a bit betrayed in a weird way. I just dont know what to do. What the hell should I do??

I dont no the best way to handle it but you shouldn't go out with this guy because its not you...

Your familly need to accept you for who you are and not try to change you, or force things on you. I would be extremly pissed if the same happened to me. Just tell the guy the truth, i doubt it will hurt his feelings, would hurt him more if you said something like "sorry your just not my type" or w/e to make an excuse not to go out with him. So yea, just be honest with him...and have a serious talk with your familly....

I would be vey angry. Don't listen to them. They are ignorant. Just do as you please and all will be well.

For the longest time, my mum couldn't accept the fact that I was bisexual. Then I decided to go out with my best friend, which happened to be a girl. My mum didn't like it but I didn't care because I love the girl. Sooner or later, my mum came around and accepted it.

If I were you I'd bring a girl home for dinner, I am sure that would bring the message across. Or just call a family meeting and look them in the eyes and say "I like girls, if you aren't willing to accept it, it isn't my problem" and leave it at that. There really isn't anything you can do to make your family less ignorant without making you look really immature.

Tell them straight.
Thats very harsh, they should accept it.

ya get your family together and tell them for good. They will accept it some day.

If they carry on trying to set you up with guys then just keep refusing to meet them and go on a date with them, it seems your family are in the 'denial' stage, dont worry. Your family love you and are just having a hard time getting to grips with your decision about your sexuality but eventually they will realise that they have been acting stuborn and will accept you for who you are, sit them all down and say, 'Im not into guys, i like girls and if you cant accept that then that is your problem, a problem I dont have to deal with, so if you dont accept me it wont change who i am so your waisting your time trying to change me.' and if they keep on trying to make you change, keep refusing to go on dates they set up, soon, they will get the picture.

Hope i helped and good luck.X

Hi. Before I tell you what I think I just want to say that I don't have anything against any sort of sexual orientation. But the truth is.....you're young and it's better if you'd try to go "straight". Many ignorant people will hate you because you're "different" in your own way. (maybe they won't tell you in the face but you'll know it..) It can be that you are confused and when people put pressure on you, you just lose control and you don't know what to do anymore. You don't have to listen to your cousin and go out with a guy you don't like. But you're not forced either to "take a different road". I think you should just stop and think about everything. In the end it's your decision and I'm sure you'll chose what's good for you. I hope my thread didn't offence you because it wasn't meant to be. Just giving a friendly advice

Well, they are your family. No matter what they will come around because they love you for who you are. It may be hard right now for them to understand maybe because they had this picture perfect future for you in their heads, and falling in love with a girl wasn't one of them. Just give them time to get over it, they will come around.

Don't go out with him in a relationship.

But I see no harm in just meeting this guy and you know, treating him as a friend. If he starts getting all lovey-dovey, jus tell him your not into that. But maintain that friend level.

Cos THEN, your family have the satisfaction of their 'plan working', you havent been forced into a relationship, you havent hurt his feelings AND you can say you tried their plans and it didnt work.

Sorrrrrrted