This thread isn't about me, it's about a friend of mine who was first pregnant two years ago when she was 15 with a guy she ended up only being with for 2 months(who was an ex of mine). She desperatly wanted a kid so she lied about being on birth control so she could have unprotected sex with him and get pregnant. She had sex with him 8 times in the week before she was supposed to get her period. After not getting her period when she was supposed she took a pregnancy test and it was positive, she told him thinking he would want the kid and stay with her, she was wrong. Because of the time line she didn't have to have an abortion to get rid of the child, but was able to take EC.

Now, two years later the same thing is happening again. During the second week of December she started dating a guy, they were together for a week before he had to go out of town to Nebraska for the holidays. The day he came back after being together for three weeks she had unprotected sex with him, again lying about being on birth control. Yesterday she told me that her period was three days late and she was really calm and excited about that. This morning she started to have morning sickness. I'm about 97% sure that she's pregnant.

The interesting thing is, she thinks she's very smart and mature for having sex with her boyfriend after such a short amount of time and it proves how much she loves him because she took his virginity. She doesn't know that I've had sex with my boyfriend because I don't trust her with that information. So she thinks I'm immature and stupid for being a "virgin" and that I don't know anything about love and don't really love my boyfriend.

What do you think of girls like that?

I really don't like people likethat, sorry to say because she's your mate and all, but people like that do my head in.

Every guy that she goes out with i reckon you warn him about what she'll be planning to do-it's for her own good. If she is speminated now do you reckon she'll get rid of it again? How stupid can one person be to think you're immature if you don't have sex, and by not having sex it means you don't love them?! seriosuly you should wait until lots of people have posted in here then show her it

Well i do think u r smart, I think ur friend is dumb for getting pregnat at 15. Thats so stupied

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^ and most likely again at 17.
This is the first time she's really had a boyfriend since the last incident. She dated one other guy almost immediatly after, but only for a week or two and nothing happened between them. As far as the warning thing goes, I don't ever talk to or see her boyfriend so that never happened, I also thought she would be over this by now.

If she is pregnant again she will have to get rid of it because her boyfriend will most likely leave her(which probably would have happened sometime in the future even if she wasn't pregnant because she's his first girlfriend and first person he's had sex with) and her dad would be furious and probably kick her out. She's in no position at all to get pregnant, let alone purposely. Neither her nor her boyfriend have jobs. Hell, neither one of them have ever even had a job.

I really wish she would realize how stupid she is for wanting a kid so young when she wouldn't be able to take care of one.

It's interesting because if I were to get pregnant I would be a little better of as far as being able to take care of a child. Up until last week I had a job(I quit last Saturday and I am currently looking for a new one), my boyfriend has a job and his own apartment so if I were to end up pregnant I would be able to live with him. I know he wouldn't leave me because we had conversations about this many times and I've also been with him for a year and four months. The thing is, I'm smart enough not to get pregnant at 17.

GAh.. she's not as smart as she thinks. She needs a reality check.

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For her to not be practicing safe sex shows she's immature, if she tell syou that you're immature again tell her that.

Getting pregnant on purpose and thinking guys will be okay with that? she may have a serious mental problem. Also you should warn every guy she sees about her birth control issues.

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G'day.

People like that make me sick.

Sex does NOT equal love.
Someone who has sex every night could be one of the lonliest people.

Not to mention planning a child behind someone's back.

WOW.
I know A LOT of people like that.

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I had a friend...she wanted to get pregnant and didnt tell her bf...all the times except for once she wasnt pregnant. but her bf that she got pregnant with dumped her before she knew for sure b/c his ex gf had a paternity test done and he was the father so he got back with her. i havent heard from her in a long time kuz she went to live with new boyfriend in a town far away....we had a spout about her wantin to get pregnant so bad and she wont talk to me anymore.

but i hope your friend realizes that not every guy will stay with her just b/c she's pregnant...and she needs to stop lying to them...pretty soon it will start circling around and guys wont want to date her let alone have sex with her.

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Ergh, mucky bitch

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She's now longer talking to me. Last night she was texting me about the whole and about how she finally told her boyfriend that she's probably pregnant, I asked what he said and apparently he wants her to get an abortion so she's not going to keep it. I responded by saying
"You wouldn't be able to. You're seventeen and still a kid yourself, you wouldn't be able to raise one."

I guess I'm just going to include the entire conversation, I didn't bring up her lying about being on BC because I was trying not to make things go horribly.
"Abortions are so expensive I don't know how I'm going to do this"-her(obviously)

"I'm really sorry and I know you're not going to want to hear this but it needs to be said, I honestly don't think you should be having sex for this exact reason. This is the second time something like this has happened. I hope that you're not pregnant since you don't know for sure yet, and if you are I'll do anything I can to help you, but I really think you should stop having sex until you're capable of handling the possible consequences of it."

"This is too hard to explain in a text but we have very different opinions of sex and I'm probably not going to take your advice. It's not for you to help with. It's for me and Isaac to handle and he's a lot more mature and able to help me than steven was."

"He's still an 18 yea old boy who has only had sex with one person and after only a month of being with her, possibly got her pregnant. You're right, we do have different views on sex. I think people should only have sex if they're mature enough and capable of taking responsibility for all possible outcomes of their actions. I don't even know what your views are, honestly."

"Why don't you just call me really fast because texting all of this shit is ridculas."

So at that point I did call her and first she went on about how people can have sex without being responsible and mature just as long as they love each other blah blah blah. After a while of that she told me she was offended by the fact that I said she wouldn't be able to raise I child, I told her she wouldn't, that I know her and I know she wouldn't be able properly raise a child. She asked why and I told her because she doesn't have the financial stability or mental and emotional maturity needed to take care of a child. She told me I was stupid and my logic didn't make sense. She said her dad would take care or it, not her. That she didn't need a job because jobs are only for people who don't have anyone else. She was just yelling at me and telling me I'm stupid and immature so I told her "I'm not the one pregnant for a second time" and hung up.

She then sent me this text message
"You're a fucking piece of shit Nichole. You're selfish and obviously not a real friend. I guess the only person you really do need is Eric. Fuck you, we're done."

She's the one who lied to her boyfriend about being on birth control so she could get pregnant. Possibly ruining his life, putting a burden on her father, and ruining a child's life, and I'm the selfish one.

How can she want a baby at such a young age?

When i was 13 i gave birth, and it forced me to grow up way too fast, here i am now, 18, in college, living with my boyfriend (of which is not the father of my daughter because the father's parents moved to another damn country and took him with them as soon as they found out), my daughter is here with me as well, and it's so unbelievably hard, i never got the typical teenage years, i was in being a mom. I don't regreat it because i love my daughter, but it does in the beginning ruin your life. Things are never the same again.

I know i'm not one to be giving advice about this kinda thing, but your friend needs to see reality, it's not all roses and tulips to have a child.

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