You're a bit old for Teenhut, aren't you?

How can I say this...I'm sorry but I think you've made an awful mistake. If you are pro-life in the abortion debate, and then you get yourself a baby at your age with someone you've been with for 5 months.

I wouldn't get married just because of a baby. Get married when you think you're ready. Same with moving out.

Good luck.

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So i take it as soon as you turn 20 your leaving this site? Didn't think so, maybe you should stick to topic

I dont want to

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i cant let my parents do that!! they did that with my older sister and she treats them with no respect and makes the fact that she got pregnant their fault i will not put this on my parents!!!! besides i think im going to have a miscaraige because the doctors said that my HCG levels are low and i've been bleeding badly so he knows that im going to have one. this is making me so depressed i want this baby to live!!!

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~Brandie~

No offense but maybe thats a good idea because you may find its just too much to handle at your age.
Im not meaning to sound rude, im just going by experiences of other teens that had kids younger and how they felt with it afterwards. Being engaged is ok in my eyes though.

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"you make my heart melt"

Even being engaged at 16 after only being with someone for 5 months is not a very good idea.

Girl you have got a LOT to learn before you make such, forgive me, dumb decisions as this. You wanna know something? I was engaged for my first time right after my 16th birthday. I wanted to get married to this boy SO bad because I thought I was ready. WRONG! He and I are no longer together and now I am with a new boyfriend and when I look back I feel really dumb for ever wanting to leap into such big decisions. You are 16 years old and you aren't even through with teenagehood yet so why let your teen years go to waste by wanting to go out to the grocery every week to buy food for your husband to cook for him and getting a job to pay electric, water, and utility bills when you've got everything set out for you at home while you are still young. If you're pregnant that's your own fault, no one can help you there, but I can just tell you you are in for a rough road ahead of you if you really are and/or decide to get married so young. You honestly need to wait it out instead of being selfish.

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im not trying to be selfish im just confused and i now no that i am or had a misscaraige. the only reason i posted this is because i wanted to know what other people thought about this situation because the people in my life i cant talk to because they would just make me feel horrible and probible try and do something that i WOULD regret(however u spell it) the people around me arnt very supportive of me and my boyfriend/feiancy whatever you want to call him, our friends were putting bets on us to see how long we would last. he wouldnt leave me if i had this baby! i know him he isnt that kind of guy if he makes a mistake he will do everything to fix it, in this case meaning he wouldnt be a dick and run out on me and this baby he would be a man and help me take care of it. everyone including him and me feel that we should get married for a lot of reasons not just this baby. i go back today to get more test to make 100% that my levels are low still and if there not then i will keep this baby and i will be responsible for it and not be like other ppl and give up when things get hard. yes it was our choice to have sex but we did it not to do it but to express how we feel for and to eachother, we dont care what ppl think about us...well he doesnt i do, why? cuz its hard for me to be around ppl i care about and to see disapointment and hate in their eyes. if i have this baby then i can have someone to love and who loves me if me and my current bf ever did break up. i'm not trying to be selfish im just saying my point of view on my situation what would u do if u loved someone so much and u found out that u were going to bring a child into this world with that person and to have everyone u cared about say "i will be here for u no mater what!"-all ur friends, ur parents everyone say that and then turn around and not want anything to do with u how would u feel and if u were against abortion unless absilutly needed and adoption only a choice if u feel that u should only give away if u only have a seriose medical problem then how would u feel?? traped right? thats how i feel! all the time ppl idk telling me that im too young when they dont even know me would make u feel the way i do, which is after a while of hearing u disgust me or omg she is such a slut! u would want to kill ur self!! i am scared to death of whats going to happen with everything that is going on right now! plus the fact that its my fault that my baby is dead...do u know how that feels? anyone? it makes u feel like everyone hates u even more then before they knew u were even pregnant!!!! all im saying is that it is very consusing right now and i just want to talk to someone who isnt going to judge me just as the girl who got pregnant and ruined her life at the age of 16!!!!!!

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~Brandie~

I'm not trying to make you feel horrible, I'm just telling you like it is..how I experienced it, how everyone else thinks as well. You care about what people think about you because that's how most women are, that's how I am, even. What would I do if I found out I was going to bring a child into the world? Well, I'd be shocked as hell because I am not able to get pregnant. But hypothetically if I could and I was in your situation, I'd focus on the baby and what my parents were/are going to think/do about it first. You two don't have to get married just to take care of a baby. And no, I wouldn't want to kill myself if people were calling me a slut. Wanna know why? Because I've been in that situation before..Of course it's not easy but you've got to keep your chin up and travel right on through your problems. If a rumor is going to cause you to want to kill yourself, what are you going to do when you bring a baby into the world and you have BIGGER choices to make. Gonna give up? Leave the baby? Leave him? What? No one hates you because the child is dead. Miscarriages aren't anyones fault, it just happens from a lot of factors. I'm not trying to judge you, I'm just trying to get you to see that things aren't easy and they're going to be a lot LESS easy if you make the choices that you are highly wanting to make.

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dont think that u should get married or have a baby as your still young and also u have only been going out 5 months and u dont really no each other that well yer

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mail me here

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Most of my post was regarding the topic. And I was hoping '' was sufficient enough to imply I was joking...

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I see where you are coming from there. However just getting engaged in my eyes is to say you are commiting yourself to each other. They could be engaged for years, at least it shows they're sticking together.
I see what you mean over the five months though, especially at your age lol


We're not judging you, well im not, im just giving a sensible answer out, i know how many girls want fun at 16, they cannot possibly handle the responsibility of that, well not many.

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"you make my heart melt"

Engaged after 5 months will basically end up leading to a break up before a year.

Honestly, this post shows how immature you are and how you are not ready for a baby, marriage, or even engagement.

I agree!


Yes, thats true.
I dont mean to sound offensive at all but i've seen loads of teenagers getting partners, but it doesnt always work out. If you end up staying with him for years then i think it would be a good idea.

I dont think anyone is mature enough to have a kid that young, sensible or not.
(And i dont mean the way you act maturity)

Take in good advise, you need to get your career/colleging/life in general before a kid should step into the world.
My brother has been with his partner for four years and theyre still not engaged.

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"you make my heart melt"