It's just.. an undescribable, unrelenting urge that won't go away.

Your Everyday Stranger · 02-06-2008, 12:11 PM

Backstory; I'm 14, a girl, for the first 10-11 years of my life I lived in a kind of ghetto part of town; shootings, gangs, tagging, drugs, the like.

I've had... incidences, where I could have been jumped into a gang (I know initiation process,... well, ours is usually beating up the person for 1 minute, rarely gang-rape for a girl...) but I haven't. I mean, it's like... I don't even know.

I know teenagers are supposed to want to "belong" and things like that, but that's not what I mean. Not like, a sports team or a club, or anything like that (i've tried both on numerous occasions). It isn't like that all.

It's like... I want to... submit myself... to rules, regulation, in a group of people. Have people to look up to, earn my status as a member and be protected and protect. I don't know how to explain it, really. Sort of like a really exclusive group of friends who are always together and follow their leader above everything, but will be the first to stand up if even the lowest member is threatened.

Anyway, help identify this feeling? Or, help, somehow?

lilpunk1302 · 02-07-2008, 08:25 AM

Well first off, Welcome to Teenhut, My name's Denis and I'm the resident Annoyance.

I'm Sorry, but I don;t quite understand what you're asking for advice on here, I'll try to answer to the best of my abilities from what I Understood,
You're 14, live in a place where there's lots of gangs, and have recently had the urge to join one, for the benefits such as protection, but are afraid of what the initiation is?

Well my advice would be to go out and see, ask them what they'd want, if it's too...meh, then quickly go find anotehr gang before word spreads that you backed out

FutureNavyMan08 · 02-09-2008, 07:46 AM

I strongly advise against it. If you're looking for structure, there are other ways. Most of the other ways don't run the chance of getting you killed. You don't want to be a statistic, another homicide. Gangs have never gotten anyone anywhere. No one is the richest or most powerful person in the world 'cause of a gang. You know who profits from gangs?

The cemetery.

Iaretehfush · 02-09-2008, 08:16 AM

Join the military? You get AIDs too when you join them.

FutureNavyMan08 · 02-09-2008, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Iaretehfush

Join the military? You get AIDs too when you join them.

How about some serious advice eh?

Denim · 02-09-2008, 03:54 PM

I'm sorry, but you want to join a gang that beats you (or potentially rapes you) as part of the initiation? You would then refer to these people as your "friends"? That is absolutely ridiculous.

My advice is to avoid gangs and everything they are associated with (crime, drugs, etc) until such time as you have a way out of the "ghetto". Nothing good will come from joining a gang.

Spark · 02-11-2008, 07:54 AM

I can understand the appeal of "belonging" and having a surrogate family of peers, but joining a gang is NOT the answer. I hate to say it but joining a gang leads to worse things and you are basically just kissing your life goodbye and submitting to a life of crime and drugs. Keep in mind once you get in it will be very very hard to get out. Just don't get involved, even if you can't see it right now you will be much better off in the long run.