I need help. I received an invitation for an MIT visit. However, my parents are refusing to sign some papers for me that asks for their financial information. My parents do not want me going out of state for college.

Instead, they are hoping that I will stay home, or find an apartment nearby, and go to a local community college. I wish to be an engineer, and I know that I can get into a better school. My mom thinks that I should start with a small career, such as photography or maybe as a hairstylist, and once a have enough money she thinks I should go on to a “real” college. I have to interest in photography, or much less being a hairstylist. Not that those are bad jobs or anything.

My interest lies within math and science. I get straight A’s in school, yet my parents seem to not acknowledge any of my accomplishments. I would say that I’m a good daughter, good grades, well behaved, no drugs, no alcohol. My mom still tells me how I'm a pig, and how I’ll never get married, and my dad always tells me I don’t know anything.

The MIT experience would be an amazing opportunity. I just wish my parents would realize what I can accomplish, and in result support me in what I do. How can I convince them that this isn’t just anything?

That is quite unfortunate. A Community College is not where you want to go, and a college like MIT would be a fantastic place especially for an Engineering career. Your parents need to understand that you don't plan on sticking around your whole life, and that you plan on pursuing a career that interests you. Just out of curiosity, what have your parents done in life? Maybe they have never gone as far as you plan to go and feel uncomfortable about it or something. I'm not sure exactly what you should say to them, but I do feel sorry for you. Parents should be supportive of what you want to do, and they should be proud of what you do in school and where you want to take your life.

My parents aren't like that. Like i said i don't do drugs or alcohol i never leave my house except for school but for some reason my parents just hate me in every way possible. I get the blame for everything. If i don't pay my dads bills (he doesn't know how) i get in trouble, if i don't make food i get in trouble, if my brother doesnt do his homework i get in trouble and so on. My parents have only got to highschool thats it. My dads just a cook at a restaurant. Mom helps take care of a house time to time. My boyfriend's dad said back in the past the children in Mexico weren't allowed to do anything more than what their parents do and since thats where my parents came from he thinks it has something to do with that but i'm not sure. I just dont understand why they're so against me pursuing what i want to become or hating me so much..

it's because they rely entirely upon you and they don't want responsibility.

if you're 18, then you can basically say "i'm sorry. i'm going to pursue my own interests and dreams. you two should become reliant upon yourselves and not your daughter.". talk to MIT and see what you can get by way of scholarship money. get as much as you can and take the rest out in loans. although loans suck, they're allowing me to go to an elite college abroad and immigrate. this way, i can follow MY dreams.

I vote that you do the same. you won't regret it.

if u r interested u should go

You have to tell them what you really want to do in life. Let them hear what YOU want. Just be persistent on making your poing pass through them.
Better yet, why don't you call MIT and tell them of your situation? Maybe you can have a guardian or some other relative to sign it for you.

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