please help!

jackhoar24 · 05-31-2008, 06:08 AM

basically im 14 years old and im bisexual and none of my friends know that and im scared at what they might think of it.i dont want to lose all of my friends.also my family will never talk to me again they hate gay people they thinks its discusting.

i just want to know if anyone has got any ideas of how i should tell them or should i leave it untill im older?

Dreamer · 05-31-2008, 12:39 PM

Im in the boat with you. I'm gay and can't tell my guardian family because they would be extremelly mad, and I'd probably have to enter one of those "Ex Gay" Programs. I have chosen to tell only people I can confide in, but even there its a thin line. You have to be careful who you tell. Im waiting till im 18 then ill go off to college and drop out of sight from my guardian.

Starlight822 · 05-31-2008, 12:51 PM

Friends- Just tell them. It'll help you sort out who isn't and isn't your friends. One of my friends told me he's bi, and I could care less. Not everyone will "dump" you, and those who do aren't worth your time.

Parents- How much do you truely think they'd freak out. And no being biased. If they'd kick you out of the house, don't tell them. If they'd just be disappointed in you, then they can be dissapointed in you until you move out.

seh-rah · 05-31-2008, 01:15 PM

I agree with Starlight, by telling your friends you'll realise who really is your 'true' friends and your parents should accept you for who YOU are..
Let us know how you go if you tell them

Brainwiped · 06-01-2008, 03:40 AM

i reacon if your 14 and male. only very true friends will be accepting, so i woulnt tell them, itll make your life hard if people find out. and anyway they're mostly homophobic pricks at that age, so wait a bit, and if your 14, thing might still change. and your parents should accept you for who you are.

jackhoar24 · 06-01-2008, 04:25 AM

i wont tell my parents untill im alot older becuase i think they would kick me out.

but im only going to tell my friends i trust and i hope they will exceot me for who i am thanks for your help

rebel_girl0 · 06-01-2008, 04:59 AM

I would just leave it be for a little bit. My best friend is bi. in a couple years you'll be classified an adult and they wont be able to do anything about. The people who matter dont care and the people who care dont matter. Just live your life and only tell someone you can really trust like my friend trusted me and only me. In a couple years tell them and only if you think you can. Hope this helped!

Allie

Kat · 06-01-2008, 05:27 AM

I'm bi i think and i feel the same. You will open up about it later on im sure. I found out i was curious at around the same age and no one knew until i turned 17 over a year ago.
I think people should accept it despite how disgusting they think it is cause you cant help the way you are. Maybe not worry unless you find a member of the same sex that you start dating, THEN think about it.

jackhoar24 · 06-01-2008, 05:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Kat

I'm bi i think and i feel the same. You will open up about it later on im sure. I found out i was curious at around the same age and no one knew until i turned 17 over a year ago.
I think people should accept it despite how disgusting they think it is cause you cant help the way you are. Maybe not worry unless you find a member of the same sex that you start dating, THEN think about it.

well i am kind of seeing someone we both that we were bi and then when we asked we became more than friends but he is the only person who knows and he wouldnt tell anyone

im just worried about how my parents take it

The Wolf · 06-01-2008, 11:36 AM

Who you have relationships with is your own business. I wouldn't randomly approach your friends and say that your bi-sexual. If the opportunity comes up, like talking about relationships and/or sexuality, then you should say it. My friend took this approach at lunch one day. We were talking about sexuality and she admitted that she was bi. I didn't know this and quite frankly I didn't care. I don't have anything against people that aren't heterosexual though.

As for your parents, I don't know. I could just say go for it, but I'm sure that would have no effect on you. Hope you find out what to do and what's best for you. Good luck.

darkd · 06-01-2008, 08:40 PM

I don't think you should tell them for now, you're only 14, and it will be hard to understand you for your friends, I'm also gay and 16 but I haven't tell anyone yet.
I know I sound like a coward but it will just make your life harder, and just like str8 people aren't telling people they are str8 you don't have to tell anyone you're bi. Feel free and enjoy your life don't get stuck on this issue.

jackhoar24 · 06-03-2008, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by The Wolf

Who you have relationships with is your own business. I wouldn't randomly approach your friends and say that your bi-sexual. If the opportunity comes up, like talking about relationships and/or sexuality, then you should say it. My friend took this approach at lunch one day. We were talking about sexuality and she admitted that she was bi. I didn't know this and quite frankly I didn't care. I don't have anything against people that aren't heterosexual though.

As for your parents, I don't know. I could just say go for it, but I'm sure that would have no effect on you. Hope you find out what to do and what's best for you. Good luck.

but when convosations come up about it the slag off gay and bi people and say its discusting

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Originally Posted by darkd

I don't think you should tell them for now, you're only 14, and it will be hard to understand you for your friends, I'm also gay and 16 but I haven't tell anyone yet.
I know I sound like a coward but it will just make your life harder, and just like str8 people aren't telling people they are str8 you don't have to tell anyone you're bi. Feel free and enjoy your life don't get stuck on this issue.

ok thanks

clanzmen · 06-04-2008, 02:12 AM

They will think of you as a fag and probably wont talk to you again. Harsh but true, you are to young to know for sure anyways

Silver · 06-04-2008, 10:28 AM

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Originally Posted by clanzmen

They will think of you as a fag and probably wont talk to you again. Harsh but true, you are to young to know for sure anyways

(clanzmen) Are all your posts bashing/insulting people?, he isn't too young to know eather. I knew I was bisexual when I was 13.

(jackhoar24) If you need someone to talk to dude, feel free to PM me.

jackhoar24 · 06-05-2008, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by clanzmen

They will think of you as a fag and probably wont talk to you again. Harsh but true, you are to young to know for sure anyways

i know im bi you dont have to be a certain age you can just tell

and thanks Silver