I dont know what to do! (seriously)

Kai to be · 06-01-2008, 10:45 PM

Hey all none of you know me im pretty sure about that but i have a major problem.

Over a year ago my brother and his girlfriend were going through a rough patch and it got very bad. There was this one time were she came to me asking for advice however i gave her more than just advice (we had sex

) we agreed not to speak of it.

The thing is she was also sleeping with my brother at the same time and well she gave birth nine - ten months later when i was away on holiday. I came back and found out she had given birth and though nothing of it i just congratulated them (they are together now) and forgot about it.

HOWEVER now that the baby is getting older people are begining to say she looks like me and not my brother and are mums saying she just like how i used to be when i was a baby.....

Am i being paranoid or is my worst fear being confirned and if so
WHAT DO I DO?!

Nicole91 · 06-01-2008, 10:53 PM

If you have any doubts about this baby you should confront the mother, make sure she had her dates right and stuff. You may end up doign a paternity tests to see who the father is...

darkd · 06-01-2008, 11:09 PM

woww that's just very complicated i don't know what to say. i think it's a very hard chance that baby is yours but whatever forget it, don't destroy the marriage(or their relationship) or the baby's life. be a good uncle.
(if you want to know the truth you can find out with a simple DNA test, whether the baby is yours or not) though i don't have much information about it, guess someone knows better will help.

Doughnut · 06-02-2008, 08:52 PM

There is a chance the baby's yours.

Time to make a decision.

Confess and risk losing your brother but know the truth.

Say nothing, risk that it could come out sometime in the future.

/Evan/ · 06-03-2008, 03:45 AM

Eh I don't think it's all that impossible for it to look like you, even though it's his son. That's genetics. Some of my cousins look alike and the gene pool is so far apart there.

Morally, you should tell your brother, but that could end the relationship and the last thing the world needs is another single parent household.

clanzmen · 06-04-2008, 03:26 AM

Tell your brother he failed at pleasing his woman and you took this place. Basically what he couldnt do you did

Stuey · 06-04-2008, 10:01 AM

It all depends. How much alike physically are you and your brother? If you look somewhat alike then you are pretty much in the clear. I don't know what all is involved in a paternity test, but if there is any way you could do it surreptitiously, it would probably be for the best.

pasta109x · 06-04-2008, 11:08 AM

I'd say just ignore it.

Silver · 06-04-2008, 11:14 AM

If I were you, I would take a paternity test.

Taytaypeace · 07-01-2008, 09:59 AM

One thing is certain, you have to get tested ALL! of you to see who the father really is. My sister sleep with my boyfriend and i found out. Well shes not my sister, but i thought of her as one. It will be hard to tell your brother, but you have to. Not just for you, him, and the mother, but the baby DESERVES to know. But remember looks have nothing to do with it, only DNA. Im not judging you we all make mistakes. Tell me how everything works out.

dokueki · 07-01-2008, 04:42 PM

Hey, there's still a chance it's not your baby... For example I look a lot like my mom's brother, and not like my mom at all, and I look a lot like my dad's brother looked like when he was a kid, and a lot like my dad as well. Don't forget you and your brother come from the same set of genes, and their dominance might be varied with the combination of your brother and his girl. You should take paternity tests though. There's an even chance for both.