Hi there, I just signed up here and it seems like a nice place to talk about things that I don't like talking about to other people in real life.

My high school life has generally been awful. I'm in my last year now :/

To start off, I've moved from Korea to New Zealand in the freshman year of high school and I was a shy introverted guy since I've came.

I've made some friends at school but I never hang out with them outside school. It seems difficult for me to make connections with people as I'm not involved in many activities. Every weekend was boring as hell. I spent most of time on computer at home. My parents don't have many friends neither, so I never get to meet other people from my parents.

It seems like I just lost the sense of how to become friends with other people and go out in the weekends. I've spent most of my time at home for the last 4 years.

School ball's coming up in two weeks and I haven't met a girl yet (since I go to boys' high school).

Recently I started hitting the gym and I got a job for playing piano at a cafe so I can get more social and feel better about myself. But it seems I always end up alone on saturday&sunday nights.

Any insightful advice on being social and staying at home no longer than 4 hours on weekends like other people?

As cliché as this will sound, just be yourself.

Don't be afraid to converse with strangers, be it your co-workers (who technically have to talk to you) or even a customer, often times people enjoy friendly banter with staff members, especially a piano player, it shows you have talents.

In high school, I always thought that confidence came in small steps, often the kids who don't speak in class will have less interaction outside of them. If a question comes up in class, don't be afraid to give and answer, strike up a debate, provide and opinion, you'd be suprised how fast a simple comment in class can lead to someone talking to you outside of it about that very topic, from there they can begin to realize that your not the "shy kid" you seem to be and there is more to you.

Just my opinion anyway

Best of luck

I'll get back to this post.

I will be your friend. =]

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dude.
I'm like you!
I'm in my last year...I have no-one.
I mean, I always talk to people at school and am never alone,
but we don't really connect, they arn't friends, they are more aquantences.
All I'm going to do, is pass my exams and wait till I leave for 6th form (college) so I can meet new people.
Thats all it is, having the chance to meet new people.
But till then, I'm stuck on my computer at the weekend. In my bedroom, alone.
=[

just be yourself
dont't change who you are- especially your talents.
Maybe you can try asking your freinds at school if they want to do something out of school. Just have confidence and go for it.
It's never too late to start socializing more and reveal the person that you are.
Yeah, i understand it must be difficult for you since you moved and so it's a big change.: new freinds, new everything- a different environment.
But just have confidence in yourself.
Take care.

I agree with everyone else. The main key is to be yourself always, don't ever change for somebody just to fit in. Try and join extracurricular activities and all sorts of clubs, because they have tons of different and new people that you can meet and it will keep you busy for a while, which means you'll be able to keep yourself occupied and not be at home. Think positive and it'll work out for you. Just be more social and it might be hard to go from one place to another, but try and work it out to the best of your advantage. Don't be afraid to let people in on who you are.

I know I've already said this, but don't ever change for somebody. You want people to love you for who you are and if you change yourself, then you're not being honest to people and to yourself.

And if you're not making any progress, be patient. It's not always easy to meet people, but it sure as hell beats being at your house for four hours.

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"The funny thing is, nobody ever really knows how much anybody else is hurting. We could be standing next to someone who is completely broken, and we wouldn't even know."

Moving is hard but u just have to get out and talk to people. Even create something to talk about

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Never give up on someone you can't go a day without thinking about.

highschool = house parties, go to one and get drunk, problem solved

I'm like you, I have a few friends, but i actually don't really like hanging out with them. I spend most of my time alone, on my computer, or reading, or something! Maybe you are just the personality type that doesn't make friends. If i were you, i would find ways to entertain myself. Joining this site is a good start. You'll make friends here, who can talk to and stuff. Best of luck to you. You'll meet people, just give it time.

Okay well personally, I like being on the computer for long periods of time.
I've found people who make me happy on here that could just as easily make me happy in real life.

You shouldn't focus on being the Mr. Popular. It isn't about that. I would just say to be yourself and people will most likely start talking to you. Of course you have to put a little effort. Try to be yourself without being an awkward person who says "Hi how are you?" and is done with it.

In all honesty, I work the weekends, and by the time I am off, all I want to do is go home and chill. Try to find some people in your neighborhood or hang out some place that interests you to see if there are people like you too.

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In a way...I'm just like you, I guess the only difference is that I choose not to go out, which annoys the crap out of my family and friends...just be yourself and don't feel the need to change in order to please anyone, let people see you for who you are. Show your personality more and you'll see that you'll make friends easier because people are seeing the type of person that you really are

Take up a sport? You don't have to talk even, and its a team bonding exercise type thing.

Figure out what your favorite thing is. Whether it be sports, video games, etc...and go from there. I'm sure that in school you can find some people to talk to. Just get into random conversations and have a good input. Then people will start to recognize you and want to talk to you more often.


All in all. BE YOURSELF.

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yea dude i was somewhat like that until my junior year. just put yourself out there and be confident and you'll be surprised how accepting people are