Since I came into highschool, i'm in grade 11 now, i've been sort of viewed as the guy thats not big on girls, all about sports etc. I'm not too popular, I know a lot of people and i'm in the middle, like not unpopular but at the same time not popular.

For the girls, I had a bad incident before high school, so now I tend not to comment on girls, and just keep my love life to myself so people get the impression that I don't like girls or something. And probably thats why I don't have a girlfriend. And people don't associate me with having fun, or having a good social life, therefore I don't have a good social life. So all of this is making me realize that I'm missing out on a lot.

I'm never told about parties or invited to go someones cottage or anything like everyone else does, I don't have a girlfriend, not too much fun, and some people that I know don't even say hi to me in the halls. I want to change to be the opposite of what I said.

SOmething to do with it might be that i'm a bit shy and what I've noticed is that, my sense of humour isn't so good. This is probably because, well everyone who has a good one, are like talking about how they got that from south park or simpsons or something, and my parents never let me watch those kinds of things, and I don't really have time for that.

So what can I do, I want to be more out there, better social life and get more of a status for my last year of high school. I want to be able to speak to all the girls and get a girlfriend sometime, but whats putting me down is that I can't even approach girls that have caught my eye but I don't know, and because I never tell anyone about who I like some of them don't even realize taht I like them. Summers here so that why i'm asking this right now, so I can use the summer to my advantage.

Ok well some people may disagree with what im about to say but i think you should make connections in high places, so like have a quick chat with the popular boys once in a while get to know them, say hello or something to some of the popular girls, once you are on speaking terms you will find it alot easier i mean for example, once you get talking to the popular boys you might be invited to one party, then people will see you there and invite you to the next one

I was in a kinde a the same position a year or so ago, I decided that it was the people who i hung round with the Quote "Weird Kids" after changing who i hung round with my prospects with women has changed................Think About it..............Aim high

I can honestly say that, as a girl, I dont really care at all who a guy hangs out with. Especially when I was in highschool, I made it a point to not date in the "in crowd" because I knew how shallow of a relationship it would have been. Girls wear boys like ornaments and I just preferred deep conversation and understanding of myself as opposed to social status.

But I guess its entirely up to you what you want and how strong of a relationship you want to create.

holy **** man, ur life is like the exact same as mine

Well yeah, [ Sam ] is kind of right.
If you want to become more popular, make friends with popular people.

Be happy, and let people know that you're fun to be around.
(:

So you're in grade 11.

So why not sort of have a personality change at the start of college?

The problem is you want a personality change - but how do you know your current personality is a problem? Okay, so you're goal is to get a girlfriend. How do you know your current personality is preventing you from getting 1? Do you think any girls turn you down simply because of your current personality?

But if you haven't met a certain someone, or have been known to get rejected for your current personality, there's no reason whatsoever to change your current personality.

But otherwise, doing so in college is a better start than your senior year in high school (assuming less people know you in college).

Neal C.

I wouldn't ditch your friends to become popular. School isn't just about being popular, i think it is better to have good friends who care about you, even if that means ure unpopular.

Hi
You are not clear with your thoughts, will you give more information. So I can help you out in this matter.