Hi everyone
I'm new here... I just found this site today, as I was thinking about the thing that's been on my mind and nagging at me a while.. who am I and where do I fit in the world. It seems that every other teenager knows who they are and have no problems. My friends know their personalities and they know what they want, what their dreams and wishes are, they can decide on actions and act on them. But me?...
When I ask about this, people think it's crazy, not knowing who you are. 'Of course you know who you are, you're Debbie, duh'. Well if it was that easy, why do I feel so lost? Why am I clueless about... myself?
I'm 18
How do I solve this problem?
has anyone else experienced this?

x Deb

I am 18, and i'm kind of experiencing the same thing... But i feel i can still give you a little advice.. it is not a problem that you can solve so easily.. not something that 'oh here is the answer..' so its going to take time to work at it. You need to learn things about yourself, take time to just be by yourself i mean don't become a loner and not talk to anyone.. but take some drives sit outside take time to think. Think hard about things you want. In time you will learn through what you want out of life, you will learn who you are. You are, we are only 18 i think it is crazy to know exactly who you are by now anyway there is so much time to grow still that it seems unlikely to know yourself fully and truthfully right now anyway. Just continue to experience different things and you will learn more and more about youself.. i dont know if that helped in the least.. but i hope it did .

amazing, i have the same kind of experience, but that was before i got to know myself.

here's my best tip:

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or search google for "Success Scroll"

you know i am giving you a little sample of the huge journey you are about to take. and it is up to you if you take that journey.

enjoy the adventure!

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Well, Deb - I had to think about that for a little bit and I've come to a conclusion. Not a lot of people, let alone teenagers, know who they are just yet. They are still questioning what their identity is and I'd like you to know that it's normal; it happens to everyone. If your friends know who they are and what they want to do, then that's great! It doesn't mean that at this time, you should know who you are by now. No, finding yourself is a challenge. It's different to different people, you'll find answers when it's there! You know, for some people - they find themselves later in life, when they are at their most happiest. For others, it starts a little young (take for example - your friends.) It takes time to fully understand yourself. If you want, every day from here on out - take the time to observe yourself. You'll probably find out something new about yourself that you hadn't known the day before, that's what I like to do.

Most importantly, you're you and your place is a place in your life that makes you happy and alive. No one can take that away from you.

I hope this (in some way) helped you out a bit. Good luck on finding yourself.

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"The funny thing is, nobody ever really knows how much anybody else is hurting. We could be standing next to someone who is completely broken, and we wouldn't even know."

I've felt this way. Actually I do now.
I think it's a part of growing up. As teenagers, we are struggling for an identity. Some adults consider us children, and others think we are grown up already. It's okay to be unsure of who you are. It's normal.
Just live your life how you feel fit and the pieces of the puzzle will slowly fall into place.

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I don't think you can ever truly "find" your identity. You will always strive to make yourself a "better" person until the day you die.

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most ppl have no idea where they belong u just kinda look around and figure out what u feel happiest doing at that moment in ur life and thats where u belong and if ur answer changes every day who cares just do whatever makes u happy and b4 u know it ur true calling will come out oo and dont be scared to try unusual stuff who know it might be a lot of fun

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I think everyone goes through this kind of phase. I certainly did.. during high school i wasn't really sure what i wanted to do with my life, i couldn't really decide who/what I actually liked, what i wanted to do with myself.. but the truth is its just not that easy. we're just growing up, it is natural, we are SUPPOSED to question ourselves.

whats the reason we do it? its because it is just easier to classify ourselves. its easier to just be "part" of something. but i think that you shouldn't worry about it so much. you will find out what kind of person you are with time, you need to live more. we are all very young in the grand scheme of things

believe me, that is just not true at all!! the people who are 100% sure about who they are, many times are ones who are trying to be someone they are not. not everyone, but its my experience that most people around our age aren't true to themselves. its just easier that way.

"RocknRollDee" i think you might know yourself more than you think. your username already tells us something about you..

good luck

You don't know who you are?

Just look at the depression section of the forum. Uh huh.

What is it that you want to know?

Simple, you will never be able to answer that question, so stop asking.

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