I'm just stupidly sensitive and because of it I seem to have lost all my confidence because of it.

I think I'm just acting like a total wimp - for example if somebody shouted something at me - like an insult - it would ruin like my whole day and I'd take it really, really personally and would not be able to get it out of my head at all and would affect me bad.

So I am shy - too scared to get a job, a girlfriend and the lot. I must be shit to be around, etc.

I'm acting like such a girl and it is totally stupid - I'm not sure why I'm even writing this - I just want to know if any1 else has this problem and how you deal with it. I need "thicker skin" and stop acting like....i dunno gay i suppose. Grrrrr it's just annoying and I'd do anything to get over it - if i could change 1 thing about me it would be that I don't care what people think - I really admire those people.

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yo man, i aint gonna bullshit you, cause i used to be like dat in 7th grade... man tha fuck up. u cant take that shit to the head everytime someone calls you out like that. if someone insults you dont just sit their and take it. doesnt mean u gotta fight back at thim, but atleast stand up for yourself man. one way a bout gettin ova bein shy is to get into a sport man. basketball or somethin fiund a sport ur good at and stick to it. sports alone can build confidence. also, when you do start thinking abpout what someone sayed to you as an insult later on in the day, u need to go ahead and throw that image out of your head as fast as you can and think of something else. the past is most definatly not where you need to be stuck in. god luck
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Try reading 'Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway' that book helped me a lot. I also try taking atleast one risk a day. That might help.

The insult thing is the same thing for me... It doesnt completely ruin my day but it makes me feel pretty crappy. I just try telling myself that they don't even know me and I shouldn't care about their opinions because most likely they aren't good people. It doesn't all of a sudden get me into a better mood but it helps.

I take like everything personally too and often get my day ruined because of it too.

Why are you too scared to get a job?

And no worries tons of peopel feel the same way you do. Well atleast me haha.

Well its all mental attitude. Theres no solid advice I can give you but I would recommend just going out and meeting people. A mixture of opinions and influence can be a good thing for things such as this.

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i cant really give the best advice because i can honestly say ive never really been like that outside of elementary school, aside from a few asswipes in middle school. But theres no way anyone can help you get tougher, you have to do it yourself. Dont follow those rules the school gives you about bullies cause that stuff is kinda retarded. Next time youre about to take something personally laugh about it or something. or, change... thats all i can really say. I went from totally emotionaly sensitive to just i dont care what the hell other people say, i mean you gotta realize thier just words. As corny as it is its the truth.

hehe, you think your sensative?

when I was 16 I was still crying when people were nice to me and and complimented me. Now THATS sensative. ^^

dont worry about it. you'll get through it. use your sensativity to your advantage.

chances are your empathic to peoples emotions, use it. help others through their problems, it will help you too.

sensative people give the best advice, because they can put themselves in anyones shoe's.

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What woodz said, man the hell up. Find a sport, maybe an extreme sport with danger involved. I guarantee you after your first accident or slight injury your body will start to adapt. You would face a gun and still hold composure!

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you asking this guy to put himself in a dangerous situation specifically to get hurt...

that is the worst advice I have ever heard.

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It's not the absence of fear which makes you a man, but doing something in the spite of fear. He'll learn a lot soon.

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Sensitivity has nothing to do with being a girl or being gay. Honestly, if you feel like you're being too sensitive, then try to take an approach. This time, when people insult you, keep your head up high and just know that you're better than that. If ignoring works, ignore them. Confidence comes from within and some people lack confidence, that's normal. You just have to learn to build yourself up and stay confident.

Trust me, sometimes I take things way too personally. However, I learned to ignore the remarks people have said to me and the only opinion that matters is mine and because of that - I'm way more confident and I'm happier.

Yeah, people are going to tease you or insult you. That's life, but the only important person you need to listen to is yourself. If you start saying positive things, then your self-confidence will build and build. Praise yourself whenever you accomplished something. In time, you'll have enough self-confidence to get you a job, to get you a girlfriend, to get you whatever it is you want.

Hope this helped

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