Dilema.

Dr.Janis™ · 06-04-2007, 12:44 AM

Ok here's the deal...
A girl I know for not so long, dorped the bomb on me and told me
that she love's me, and she asked me out. She's a year yunger then
me, and she's a good friend of my sister...
But as you know from my other thread, I love a girl that live's werry
far from me. Now this may sound silly to you, but I dont want to hurt
her feeling's, and just say NO.

So what should I do?

Strawberry_Wine · 06-04-2007, 02:36 AM

Explain to her that you don't feel the same. It doesn't have to be a "No!", and either way you say it she is going to be upset and hurt, it just would be less shocking if you explained this to her, instead of just "No".

BabyJos · 06-04-2007, 02:57 AM

jus tell her u dnt lyk her in dat way n u jus wana b friends, dnt jus say NO coz dats rude.

xoxo Betty Boop xoxo · 06-04-2007, 04:28 AM

hey dr.janis

Its nice that you don't want to hurt this girls feelings, i can understand that. And it sounds like she could be a nice girl too. But believe me, you have to be direct and honest with her. it wouldnt be fair to you to go out with someone your not totally into. and it wouldnt be fair to her to have a boyfriend not totally into her.

so, maybe just let her down easy. maybe say something like,
"Hey ____, your a great girl who is pretty and smart, but im sorry, i can't return the feelings you have for me. But your rad so lets stay friends."

Dr.Janis™ · 06-04-2007, 04:47 AM

Thanks guy's

xxXRawrHelloKittyxxX · 06-04-2007, 06:47 AM

I had to deal with this before. As I told you, I love someone very fucking far away from me. And we knew that we had to see people. I remained single and I liked it that way. He was forming feelings for his best friend at the time and we decided to see other people. Just because you date someone else doesn't mean that the feelings you have for that person miles away will change. But sooner or later you are going to have to question those feelings.

Now, if you don't want to date this girl then simply tell her that. I'm not into the whole sugar coating thing but oh well. Simply tell her that you don't feel the same way about her but you don't want to hurt her feelings. Honestly is the main factor here.

ClandestineXEmo · 06-07-2007, 07:22 AM

I agree with pretty much everyone who's posted here already. Just tell her that you don't feel the same way. It'll be better than leading her on and better than making yourself miserable (because as an emo, you don't need more misery. If you wanted more misery, you could go listen to a Hawthorne Heights album).

H-AuB10.13.29 · 06-13-2007, 07:24 PM

the truth may hurt her, but it helps her at the same time..