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Alrighty, so my boyfriend has cancer... Recently he's been having trouble with his blood counts, and he hasn't even been able to get his chemotherapy treatments. He's been really sad and depressed, which is very unusual for him because he's the most optimistic person I know, but whenever I talk to him, I sort of just freeze up and I don't know what to say. I've asked my friends and they say to just tell him I love him (I do this all the time), and to tell him that he can talk to me (I say that too), and all sorts of stuff.... but you can only say these things so many times in a conversation...
So, what do I say to him? "Oh, God has this divine plan and everything will be alright!" ... no... "Don't worry, be happy!" ... heck no.... "Don't get mad, get glad?" .... Wow, I'm a mess....
I think all you can do is ask if he wants to talk about his problems, and if he says yes then that's what you have to do. If he says no, then you have to be entirely normal and talk the way you did before you found out he had cancer.
Can you blame him for being depressed? It's a stressful thing to go through, even for the most optimistic of people. He's probably confused about the way he feels about everything, so you might just need to back off for a while, or up the attention.
It's kinda a weird thing because you can't get inside his mind to find out what he wants, and neither can you truly voice what you feel.
If you wanna talk...you know where the PM button is. If you don't know where the PM button is...just ask. =]
This must be such a hard position for you both
I can understand why he is feeling like this..my mom has cancer too.
I hope this nasty disease quickly removes then you will look forward to a wonderful future again
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Wow this exact thing has happened to me, Im totally not joking.
Its hard
Its real hard, but all you can really do is hope, spend time with him, show him you care in little ways. My bf got over his cancer, and he was lucky he did, but i stayed with him through thick and thin.
If you wanna speak about anything, just PM me.
I know exactly how hard it is.
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