Cybering is taking over my life, seriously. And to some people it might sound like a joke, a silly joke. But it's not a joke because most of the time I'm trying to stop myself from cybering with people or pushing those away that try to cyber with me.

I never use to be into cybering. My best friend would say shit to me all the time and I would overlook it most of the time. I wasn't interested in that. And more and more after I got more sexually active I felt like it wasn't so bad to bring up cybering in a normal friend based conversation. I use to do it so much and it didn't matter who the person was. It was girls and boys. I would show photos but not naked ones. Just like my boobs in a bra and my ass in boyshorts. It was getting worse. I craved it more and I also felt guilty about how I went along with it.

I wouldn't care whether people look down upon it or not. I didn't think it was such a fucking problem. Now it's all I think about and it's sick, plus twisted in ways. I know it's a lot better to cyber then to go out and cheat on my boyfriend but at the same time it's like cheating without the touching. I'm just hoping that someone doesn't say, "Yeah Fay, you need help" Because seriously that would suck.


Help me.

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Well, I really don't know what to say to help you, because I suck at helping people. But I could suggest trying not to go on the computer as much. And if you do go on the computer often, try to stray away from chatrooms/forums that allow cybering. Just strain yourself not to visit those sites, or to cut down computer time. And it seems like you've tried that, after re-reading your post. Try even harder. Spend more time with your boyfriend, or do something that will take your mind off of cybering. Might sound silly, but maybe an addicting online game? Like, not enough to just take the place of cybering and be just as bad, but something you enjoy playing but could stop playing if you wanted.

Probably not much of a help, but I tried.

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I went through the same thing... I was 11 and very depressed when it happened, but I did it. It's not fun. Especially when you get caught, and at such a young age. I haven't done it since (a good 2 years) and I feel much better. What you need to do, is block all the people you would cyber with. Refuse contact. Delete all messages/IMs/files of when you would be cybering. Also, there is a point when you may realize the people who you are talking may be 50 year old men, masterbating to your every word. When you think about that, trust me, you'll probably stop... though, you could just get more pleasure out of it. But, seeing as you regret it already, you will be slightly disgusted.

PM me if you need to talk, I'll stay here and chat more, if you need.


always,
Katherine of Kenna&Katherine

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Just remember, what ever you do, everyone here will still love you.

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Wow, I really dont know how to help you here. You may just have to foce yourself to stay away from the computer. Sorry, wish I could be more help.

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Yes I do! (no I dont)

Sorry I'm not much of a help too
Try staying away from the computer as much as possible
n ur sexually active so take it out on your boyfriend

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Life is too short to spend hoping that the perfectly arched eyebrow or hottest new lip shade will mask an ugly heart xx

I had this problem many years ago. Listen, when i was about the age of eight, i was massively addicted to video games. Its was so bad I almost stayed on the computer fourt-teen hours a day. Sad huh? Well mainly, I talked to a teeager psychologist and the reason she told me was, "Many teenagers have this problem, not just you. Its in most cases cause by a state of long depression or boredom. You have to like other things instead of the computer." I got to thinking, I loved playing guitar. So the about when i was eleven or twelve i made a bunch of friends that are now so close to me they think of me as family almost. We started a band.

Making new friends, doing what I liked, and overall getting out of the house solved my problem

Hope this helps

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Yeah, I don't think you need help, but your will-power needs to be there. Just.. refuse to do it if it's really bothering you that much. I don't think there's anything neccessarily wrong with what you're doing. Cause really, you're just masterbating to words on a computer. Yeah, they're interactive, but a person could create a program like that, you know what I mean?

Just stay away from those chat rooms, and those people that make you want to do it all the time. Or else, if it's really bothering you, when you feel the urge to do that, just go watch some porn and do it yourself.

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Maybe masterbate on your own and think about the cybering? I did that for a while, I was crazy about it online, then I the man Im with now is like.. Oh yeah Here lol, so I don't cyber anymore, but try and see if just thinking about it will take it away like after you orgasm or something? I have no idea loll.

Well,
instead of cybering,
just get your 'horniness' out by porn..
that's what I do..
plus, its safer that way.

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Well, if you are serious about helping yourself, first thing you can do is tell yourself when you're going to do it how guilty you are going to feel afterward. Maybe you should tell perhaps one of your parents or a close friend about this, I'm sure they can help you out more then I ever could.