I've never really had a lot of confidence, I just can't seem to talk to new people.

I was gaining a little more this time last year but it all started to fuck up again when I started getting bullied again in school by these sluts in my child development class.

I'm gonna start college next month so I wanna get more confidence to make a fresh start, as there will be new people there and hopefully less childish cunts.

People seem to bully me because I haven't got much confidence so they know I wont argue back, and it just starts the whole cycle again.

I've always seemed the quiet type, but i'm really not, it just depends on the people I'm around.

It's just so much different when I'm with my friends and family coz I know I can be myself without being judged.

And whenever I'm around a massive group of people I always feel like the ugly outsider.

Has anybody got any tips to gain confidence around new people?

I'm exactly the same.
I can't really give you any advice, only what other people tell me.
Basically, you have to ACT confident, and then in time confidence will be a normal thing for you.

Well I don't ever build confidence. I take that back, I do to a certain extent. Not much though becuase my way is I have enough confidence to say the first hello right without fucking up. Then after that I'm chill. I have no idea how this works, But it does.

Whenever I try and act confidence I always end up fucking it up lol.

Like ask something, they'll answer me then there's an awkward silence afterwards o.0 I dunno how I do it.

rofl.
I'm the same.
idk, I have no idea.
sorryyyyyy

Let me just say that you're not alone.

The best thing to do is to be internally conceited. You first need to see yourself as someone being worthwhile talking to. Think of how much better you are than everyone else around you. Then, before MAKING conversation, I suggest listening in to the person talking to other people. Take note of what they talk about. Then, wait for the person to not have their attention on anyone really (you know, those awkward moments where no one says anything?) and just chime in with your own talk. If no one clicks in to what you're saying, they're probably just shy, pricks, or too caught into their own other conversations to take note of yours.

Just remember, if you keep being nice when you try to talk to people, they'll notice. Usually, talking in class about that class is the easiest way to converse. Then switch the topic to about their other classes, and then if they are in any clubs or sports, then their home life, then their friends...

It just kind of builds, ya'know? You'll do fine in college, people there are much less judgemental. Best of luck.

i had the same problem... i was very shy in middle school but when i started highschool, there were lots of new people and some i knew from middle school, but i didnt want to be shy anymore so i started socializing with new people... i still dont have much confidence but im working my way up there...

the best thing you can do is not care what anyone else thinks.

Fake it till you make it is my motto lol if you don't have any confidence you hafta fake it like you're the hottest thing out there. i'm not saying you hafta be loud or anything like that. Even the quiet people put off that confident vibe. Just keep telling yourself that your opinion matters and don't even give it a second thought if someone doesn't like it. Plus, college, so i hear, is totally different from high school. No more drama. So have a blast!

Awkward silence happens. It happens to me I just don't think of it as awkward silence. I just think of it as they're thinking of something to say.

Ah yes, I remember what it was like to go through one year, and things get better on the next. On my second to last year of school, I suppose most students were forced to stay in school, and that included the people that were stunting you socially. But when it came to the final year, the whole school year was optional, and so just a lot of the good people stayed. That is probably part of the reason I became more of a social person, because I got to go through a year of school where there were much less idiots, comparing to the people you call sluts. I believe what you want can happen.

For tips, I would recommend experience. Try it out a bit, break that barrier of conversation that stops you from saying that thing you wanted to say to the person next to you. You mightn't even see that person after that anyway. Remember that way you used to talk to your friends and family, it works on people who aren't friends too. It can feel good for both parties if you talk to each other like you know each other, even though you don't.

I was exactly the same as you when i was at school. You may be generally loud outside of school, but also lacking great confidence too. I realized this was because of how people were bullying me, which made me insecure and lacking a lot of confidence.
Im sure that when you start college you will come out a lot with your confidence...youll probably be mixing with a lot more mature people too. I certainly changed a awful lot since beginning college...i was so afraid of doing things alone, or mixing with people, but now it comes so much easily most of the time.
My mentor also helped me with this Do you see one?
I found it hard to gain my confidence alone, surprisningly mentoring really helped this because she worked on how i can develop confidence.

Firstly I'd like to say hello to everyone. My first post here... I have the same exact problem. I'm a guy but it so hard for me to approach girls. Most girls I like or know have nothing in common with me. To put it mildly, I'm a geek! Big comic book fan, love star wars, yada yada. I really have nothing to talk about with girls, then like the original poster said, there's this big awkward silence... I try and think of something witty to say but it comes out sounding stupid....

Shoot one, they won't fuck with you again.

i was the same in grammer school. let me tell u there is no way to feign confidence but there is a way to build it up. i agree with wut other people have said. u must be sum wut concieted on the inside. no one will like u unless u like yourself.
look go out with some friends and approach any particlar guy u think is cute, dance with him, it usually breaks the ice, talk to him while dancing,

u seem like a cute girl, im sure u will have no problem making friends and getting dates. you must be willing to put yourself out there. you will most likely never see the person again so, so wut if you make an ass out of youself? fuk it! just live and be goofy, have fun. lol