help

fromfirsttolast · 10-16-2007, 11:00 PM

hi

i'm 17 and for some reason i seem to be unable to have sex (i'm a girl btw).
i tried once last year and me and the guy couldnt do it, he just like, wouldnt go in, i assumed it was because i was kinda repulsed by him so wasn't turned on or something.
but i tried again twice with my boyfriend of 7 months and same thing happened.
i don't know why, had plenty of foreplay and it all went fine.

i'm starting to really worry about it.

does anybody have any idea why this is happening or how i can fix it?

Phuck Buddy · 10-16-2007, 11:22 PM

what do you mean unable to have sex. Is it that he can't put it in?

If so, maybe you're just really tight and you a little more force. If you are tight, it might hurt when he puts it in b/c he'll ahve to break your hymen, but then you'll be able to have sex.

fromfirsttolast · 10-16-2007, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Phuck Buddy

what do you mean unable to have sex. Is it that he can't put it in?

If so, maybe you're just really tight and you a little more force. If you are tight, it might hurt when he puts it in b/c he'll ahve to break your hymen, but then you'll be able to have sex.

yeah.

yeah i said that to him and he was being pretty rough but it didn't do any good.
he said he was sore tho cos he'd been up for like 3 hours lol, so maybe that was why it didn't work, i dunno.

Phuck Buddy · 10-16-2007, 11:45 PM

he's gonna need to be more rough...or maybe you're going to need to break it on something smaller...maybe get a small vibrator or have him use a few fingers to get you used to it...than put in his cock. use lots of lube too.

Rockability · 10-17-2007, 07:11 AM

Water.. like.. wet his dick down.. and try it again :\

Rockability · 10-17-2007, 07:11 AM

I never had this issue.. mine popped from soccer.. HAHA

Phuck Buddy · 10-17-2007, 08:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Rockability

Water.. like.. wet his dick down.. and try it again :\

NO NO NO!!!! water is a bad lubricant. You can use saliva if its a lot of saliva, but you're better off buying a lubricant

Rockability · 10-17-2007, 06:28 PM

Water works for me?

Capt Sasha · 10-17-2007, 06:52 PM

I think I can make a rough guess about what your problem is. When your boyfriend tries to penetrate you, your vagina closes down in a tense way which bars him entry.

This is a common sexual problem among girls, known medically as vaginasmus, caused when your PC muscles clamp shut as a reflex action to anything that tries to penetrate the vagina. If that is the case, its involuntary and you'll probably have to see a therapist about it.

Just try the above suggestions and if they work, then all is fine. If they don't, avoid using force as it will make the problem worse and hard to treat. The problem is more psychological than anything with your body and is probably caused by your past sexual experiences (with the boy who repulsed you).

Phuck Buddy · 10-17-2007, 11:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Rockability

Water works for me?

you're not a virgin. I'm sure that has a factor to it.

tessa_s212 · 10-17-2007, 11:20 PM

Consider it a blessing.

Years from now maybe you wont have to regret it.

Phuck Buddy · 10-17-2007, 11:42 PM

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Originally Posted by tessa_s212

Consider it a blessing.

Years from now maybe you wont have to regret it.