My boyfriend and i are thinking about having sex for the first time....we are both 13...that's what scares me...he says he's ready and excited and I am scared and worried...since we are still 13 and can't drive, we can't go to a private place...and I am just scared about where we are gonna do this...like the best place is in my room when my family is at my bro's hockey game...but yah...i am just scared...and I still don' know everything about sex...ok and I wanna go on birth control but I don't know how to approch my mom...but what should I do? do I have sex now or do I wait a while? and how do i ask my mom to put me on birth control? and do u need to be on birth control if the guy is wearing a condom??

Dont have sex until you're 18.

haha ^^

like thats gonna happen

You should go with your instinct. If you aren't read don't do it. Don't let your boyfriend pressure you into doing something you're not ready for .

13 is too young in my opinion. You're still a child. Do kid stuff. Go to the mall, movie theater, and things like that. I'd say wait until you're at least 16. If you're doubting it now you'll most likely regret it... Maybe not immediately but you probably will later in life.

if you have to ask ANYONE, let alone a bunch of strangers on a website, you are NOT ready to have sex.
only YOU know if and when you're ready. the only advice you need is your own.

QFT! I would wait. You obviously aren't sure about this and why risk ruining your life for an unsure thing.

that seems to be one of the more popular answers to questions like these.

but seriously though, you don't think 13 is a little young? of course your bf wants to have sex. he's a horny teenager

dont have sex if you have even the slightest doubt if you really want it.

Yep, I agree.

My goodness!! You're in what, 7th/8th grade or something?

Don't have sex until you hit puberty..
Otherwise its just wrong.... very wrong.

My advice will be to wait until your in high school and are in a REAL relationship and are in Love. (in my experience middle schoolers didnt ..er have the best relationships).

But yeah you're virginity is not something that you can get back..

I agree with you here

but not here....you're telling me high schooler's fall in love? That's a joke. how many high school sweethearts go on to marry each other? Last time I checked 5% of couples dating in hs went on to marry each other? and if you go with the 50% divorce rate rate, that's like 2.5 % who actually stay together. not 2.5% of high schoolers, but 2.5% of high schoolers in relationships. so ya...hs and in love is laughable

you can, but it requires an operation

I am over 16 yet feel too young still.
You may feel in love and its completely natural, but it really is a little young.

LOL dont we all do kiddies stuff at times?
I do



P.s- i dont wanna sound rude or anything but sometimes we do things and reget them instead of taking in good advice. Its safe to have sex if yuor both free of any disease, but it is rather an adulty thing to do and i myself wouldnt have it yet. You would know when you are ready, you will feel ready
I nearly gave in to having it with my ex as i loved him at heart. Im glad i didnt now.. they often tend to be a little pushy and we feel we will give in because we dont wanna loose them. Now i realized id rather lse the guy instead of being pushed into it.
But on the other hand how is it going to harm having it that young?!
I understand its really too risky of pregnancy etc, thats very true! Many youngsters arent really mature to know any different, but this member may be different. But yes, id advise you to wait