Hiya everyone. Well I have been feeling down lately. I am gay and like I was thinking of what my life will be like as an older.... ug man. I hate that word, it has nothing to do with gender issues, I love being a boy. It's just that, well like everyone, I don't want to get old. And a "man" just isn't a thing I am interested in becoming. I put it in parenthesis so you know I don't mean like a gender problem.

Just the thought of being an older gay person isn't very appealing. Like, I feel being who I am can only go so far and till I hit like...what... 27? 29 tops? I think life as myself will be fun. Then like there are problems of being older. I would NEVER consider marriage or anything ridiculous like that with another person, but like being alone is even less appealing than that. And being an old guy who is attracted to other ones is just....!BLEAH! It's a terrible thought and I'm sure I will get over these feelings, but it has been stressing me out.

And I'm not the raving, "fabulous" type. So I wouldn't have to worry about being the stereotype, but still.
Does anyone else worry about these kind of things? Or is this just me? And what I guess "advice" would you give me to "cope" with this because it has been driving me insane thinking about it.

california rules man

I have this issue too.
Except I'm not male.

Sorry, it sucks. I hope it gets better.

so you don't want to be old and gay?

how about you turn yourself straight in your mid-20's since you can't really reverse or stop the again process.

I mean, I'm not sure what kind of answer you're looking for here. if you really love th person you're with, it won't matter what they look like at 30, 40, 50.

yea ive actually never thought of that, i guess its probally cause im not gay and would never have to consider it, but yea thats tough.

like i worry sometimes that i might never meet the person thats right for me and ill be alone or single most of my life, but i think a lot of people have those feelings.

but, do you think that you'll never meet anyone that you would like to be with long term? or that you know you wouldnt want to but kind of wish you could?