I have been questioning my sexuality for about 1 year and a half now for some reason. I have been in a relationship with a girl for 4 years. We have sex and stuff. Its going well. But why am i questioning my sexuality? Is this normal? and how does one know if they are gay? I mean i think girls are hot and stuff just i am not really sexually attracted to them and stuff. Also does it mean u are gay if u have a dream with a guy in it? sexual

We all go through the "unsure" phases. I know I am fairly mature, and I find times when I am questioning my sexuality. Sometimes I don't find guys attractive sexually or physically in the least, but that always depends. You just have to wait for the right girl.

And dreams CAN but most of the time have nothing to do with reality. Maybe you had that dream because it was something you were thinking about or questioning.

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Ok good that makes me feel a lot better. Do you think any of my friends are going through the same thing? Not tryin to be a dick but i am a part of the like popular crowd i guess u could say and my friends look to me to see how to get girls. And for this reason is why i think i am gay. Cuz in movies and stuff the gay guy is portrayed as the guy that all the girls like. Stupid i know but its bothering me. Sorry if i offended any of yall not tryin to at all.

its natural, most people will question their sexuality at some point.
You sound straight to me, and yea, your friends are or have probably been through the same thing at some point.

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You didn't offend me at all.
I think your friends could possibly be going through the same thing.
Everyone goes through one of those stages in their lives I am sure.

Sure, the gay guy is portrayed as the one all of the girls like, but just think of the popular hot guy that all the girls like as well, which is probably what YOU are.

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i was in the same situation i had a gf for about a yr
but i think inside i knew i was gay all a long
whwn me and my gf did things i wasnt bothered about ne of it
i spose the final pointer to me being gay was when i could not get an erection for a while when we were doing things

tbh mate u might be bi
youve kept with ur gal for ages now means ur obvo committed
but on the other hand dreams of guys was my first ever sign of being gay

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haha well getting a boner is not a problem when we are doing things. Did you and your gf ever have sex? I mean the reason i started question my sexuality was because i got really nervous when we were trying to have sex cuz it was my first time i ever did it. I was shaking and stuff. I mean i have done stuff with other girls as well and i enjoy it a lot but for some reason ever since this one time i have not been able to stop questioning my sexuality. Its weird. When i was a kid i did stuff with my friends like hook up with them (they were guys) it was weird, but i was always attracted to their sisters and always wanted to do stuff with them. This was when i was like 10 or 11 or 12 or somethin like that. Its like since i have started question my sexuality i have almost convinced myself that i was gay and have began to get real worried cuz i do not want to be gay. Nothing against gay people, just i really want a wife and kids and live the american dream. I mean i could never see myself hook up or do anything with another guy and would not really prefer it.

GSLING - how did u first know u were gay. Like what really hit the spot besides the fact u could not get a boner. Did u look at porn when u were a kid and masturbate to it? Cuz i have always been a fan of porn and have gotten in trouble many of times because of it. Just need some help.

The only way you will no is if you do stuff with guys & you like it. Then if you still like girls to, your Bi. If not your gay.

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G'day.

And their is your answer my friend.

sweet that makes me feel so much better cuz i really did not want to be gay. I mean i love girls and all the features that cum along with them. Thanks a lot guys and girls

Just be who you are though i dont condone such conduct but do what you have too

anyways i tried looking at gay porn and it was very disturbing. Made me gag almost threw up. The more i read about people questioning their sexuality the more it makes me nervous about maybe being gay. Also is it possible that one gets "play" so much that it is not as enjoyable as it used to be? Because i think this has happened between me and my girlfriend. When i was in middle school and early highschool i used to get so excited when i would feel up my girlfriend and seeing her naked, but now that i have seen her naked so many times it does not really get me excited. When she says she wants to do something and she is horny it turns me on a great deal tho. If i get hard when just thinking about havin sex with a woman does that make me straight? Tried to think about havin sex with a man, but it just disgusted me. Does that make me straight?