Ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 4 months now. We make out pretty often. He generally touches me a lot all over, which I love, including a lot of feeling around my vagina above clothes, and more recently for the first time some fingering.
Now I'm very naive on the subject of sex, especially foreplay-type things (I didn't even know you could orgasm without having intercourse), and we've discussed this. He hasn't done much with other people at all, but he does know what he's doing (at least I'm pretty sure).

Anyway the problem is, I worry that I'm doing nothing to please him. I'm not very touchy when we kiss, aside from holding him close, gripping his back/neck/hair. I'm waaay to shy and clueless to try anything but I'm worried that at some point he'll have to expect something!

advice greatly appreciated! thanks.

You sound almost exactly like my girlfriend, usually I'm the one making the moves and shes really shy.

Don't worry about whether or not ur doing anything to please him, I bet hes plenty happy with wherever he touches you and with the things he does for you, I know I am. Maybe it sounds weird or something, doing things for (or to..ha) her makes me happy. Ya know..its all good.
But also if you want to do something, don't be afraid to. I'm sure he won't complain..and if he does its a good thing, you'll know what he does and doesnt like. Try to have confidence to do what you like too.

thanks, that makes me feel quite a bit better. =)

usually, once a girl figures out how to put the penis into her mouth, the rest just falls into place

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ok so sorry to return to this old thread but I need advice now more than ever.
a week or so ago this topic came up in conversation between me and my boyfriend. He asked how I felt about "doing something for him". I really want to make him happy, and he's done so much for me I really think I owe it to him. So I made it up in my mind that I'd try and give him a handjob soon.
I'm seeing him today and I'm pretty positive this is a perfect day to try.
I accidentally upset him yesterday, ruined his day and such and I really want to make it up to him. We're spending the day together and I'm sure there will be an opportunity.

I'm totally freaked out though! I've never even seen his cock (or anyone's up close for that matter) and even though I understand the general concept I have no idea how to get started. It seems so bizzare to just reach down and start grabbing something I've never even seen -_-'

any advice on the subject would be GREATLY appreciate (serious advice tho, please?)
thanks

Well, for starters it might be best if you two are in a pretty private area because for me it's easier if I can take his pants off or at least pull them down far enough so I can use my hand a bit easier. Something else that works for me is it might help if both of you are sitting up and having you on his lap. Once again, better access

Oh, make sure you have some lubricant on hand or at least some way to create enough friction and when you start working it with your hand you can add in some kissing too.

ah no need to worry.