he's way more experianced....

clumzy · 05-28-2008, 12:54 AM

well..i just recently started dating this guy and he's really cool..and i guess you can say i like him. He's 2 years older than i am (i'm 17 & he's 19) and he's way more experianced than i am....at first it wasn't really a problem but i just found out that he's had 7 different sex partners...and 2 b honest that makes me feel weird. I'm still a virgin and it makes me feel like he would b expecting sumthing from me u know? i really like him but i honestly don't know what to do...he's told me before that he's not expecting anything from me and that he doesn't care about all that stuff..but the whole "7 different girls" thing kinda makes me feel uncomfortable...what should i do?

lambshank · 05-28-2008, 01:03 AM

Don't feel uncomfortable really i felt the same when i did it with my boyfriend and well it don't matter he had sex with god knows how many people before me! (LOL)

just as long as you really love him and you really wanna do it just go ahead !! if he loves you it dont matter !!

hope things work out 4 ya !!!!

monika · 05-28-2008, 04:39 AM

if u expect any thing from him ur uncomfrtability is natural otherwise if u feel him as a friend u should not be uncomfortable and keep ur frdship going

ihaveadog · 05-28-2008, 07:11 AM

does he know your a virgin

The Wolf · 05-28-2008, 09:49 AM

Not to freak you out anymore, but before you do anything I would really consider him getting checked for STDs. Seven different partners is greatly increasing his chances of having something. The last thing you would want is to lose your virginity and get an STD.

Back on topic though, if he really likes you he won't force you to do anything you are uncomfortable with. If he does, leave him if you think it's right.

ihaveadog · 05-28-2008, 09:53 AM

agree get him checked

***M+I+L+F*** · 05-28-2008, 10:46 AM

Thats the way it was with me and my bf, he was 20 when we started dating, and he had ALOT of experience, and when we went to do it the first time he totally made me feel comfortable and he was very careful and asked me if verything was ok. i would say dont worry about and make sure he gets checked and wear a condom..,..

PJV575 · 05-28-2008, 10:48 AM

The more experience your partner has, the better your chances of having a good first time.

My ex had slept with 3 or 4 guys before we had sex, and I'm glad she did, it made it a lot easier and she taught me a lot very quickly without making it awkward.

jennisher · 05-28-2008, 10:50 AM

1. Ask him to get checked. 2. You say you like him, but do you love him? Sex without love, without a really deep emotion is really unfulfilling. 3. From a personal point of view, I wouldn't have sex with this guy, he says he had sex with 7 different women, if thats true, and he is only 19, you can rest assured they aren't from "deep meaningful" relationships, they're probably one night stands, brief flings etc. I think you would be better served investing your time and love into someone who seems interested in a commitment.

leila · 07-07-2008, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by jennisher

1. Ask him to get checked. 2. You say you like him, but do you love him? Sex without love, without a really deep emotion is really unfulfilling. 3. From a personal point of view, I wouldn't have sex with this guy, he says he had sex with 7 different women, if thats true, and he is only 19, you can rest assured they aren't from "deep meaningful" relationships, they're probably one night stands, brief flings etc. I think you would be better served investing your time and love into someone who seems interested in a commitment.

actually this is true!!! you wouldnt want to loose your virginity with a guy that doesnt care for you and just sees you as a fling.

dr-reiper · 07-08-2008, 02:49 AM

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Originally Posted by jennisher

1. Ask him to get checked. 2. You say you like him, but do you love him? Sex without love, without a really deep emotion is really unfulfilling. 3. From a personal point of view, I wouldn't have sex with this guy, he says he had sex with 7 different women, if thats true, and he is only 19, you can rest assured they aren't from "deep meaningful" relationships, they're probably one night stands, brief flings etc. I think you would be better served investing your time and love into someone who seems interested in a commitment.

ye,she seemd to pretty much sum up evry thing u needed to kno i think...gud luck wit it

twizzy · 07-08-2008, 05:06 AM

watch out cuz your going to be #8....

lol, naw. but why does it matter how many people he's had sex with?

Edge · 07-08-2008, 05:10 AM

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Originally Posted by twizzy

watch out cuz your going to be #8....

lol, naw. but why does it matter how many people he's had sex with?

Because sometimes people are uncomfortable with the fact that, for one they've never had the same experience to where in her case, her partner has had many sexual experiences.

There's fears, you don't want to do the wrong thing, what if something goes wrong? There's a lot to worry about, it just matters.

twizzy · 07-08-2008, 05:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Edge

Because sometimes people are uncomfortable with the fact that, for one they've never had the same experience to where in her case, her partner has had many sexual experiences.

There's fears, you don't want to do the wrong thing, what if something goes wrong? There's a lot to worry about, it just matters.

put it this way...the more wemon he's been with the better the sex will be for her,lol.

twizzy · 07-08-2008, 05:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Edge

Because sometimes people are uncomfortable with the fact that, for one they've never had the same experience to where in her case, her partner has had many sexual experiences.

There's fears, you don't want to do the wrong thing, what if something goes wrong? There's a lot to worry about, it just matters.

put it this way...the more wemon he's been with the better the sex will be for her,lol.