orgasim???

firecatboy · 06-21-2007, 11:37 AM

hey, me and my gf have sex usually and i get my orgasim but she said she never does?.. its starting to make me mad becuase i want her to feel good during sex? any help

agent10ve · 06-21-2007, 12:21 PM

Don't get mad! But you do have a right to be frustrated. It's very common for girls to take a long time, have difficulity, or not even orgasm during sex. It tends to take more work to make a woman orgasm that it does a girl. You need to talk to her and ask her what turns her on and what feels best- do those things.

Also keep in mind that most girls cant reach an orgasm without clitoral stimulation (a lot of it!) so have either her rub her clit or you rub her clit during sex. You could also find positions that allow you to rub against her clit as you thrust (girl on top positons are good for that...)

Good Luck

Morbid · 06-21-2007, 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by agent10ve

Don't get mad! But you do have a right to be frustrated. It's very common for girls to take a long time, have difficulity, or not even orgasm during sex. It tends to take more work to make a woman orgasm that it does a girl. You need to talk to her and ask her what turns her on and what feels best- do those things.

Also keep in mind that most girls cant reach an orgasm without clitoral stimulation (a lot of it!) so have either her rub her clit or you rub her clit during sex. You could also find positions that allow you to rub against her clit as you thrust (girl on top positons are good for that...)

Good Luck

Well said.

xxXRawrHelloKittyxxX · 06-21-2007, 01:04 PM

Jerk off before you have sex. That way she might hit climax before you do.

xoxo Betty Boop xoxo · 06-21-2007, 01:06 PM

Have more/better foreplay

Capt Sasha · 06-21-2007, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by firecatboy

hey, me and my gf have sex usually and i get my orgasim but she said she never does?.. its starting to make me mad becuase i want her to feel good during sex? any help

First, don't feel pressurised to make her bring into orgasm and neither should she feel inadequate or she'll be so tensed, she won't come to orgasm. Second possibly your girlfriend needs clitorial stimulation to come to the edge so as agent10ve said, try positions like girl on top which give her stimulation on the clitoris or try manual stimulation with your/her fingers during sex (mostly in doggie style). Or better still, try oral sex if you're comfortable with it, the tongue works best and it can give her strong toe curling orgasms and it can bring you really close as a couple.

Lastly ask her what she likes and explore her as much as you can so that both of you become mind readers of each other's sexuality.

Phuck Buddy · 06-22-2007, 04:23 AM

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Originally Posted by firecatboy

hey, me and my gf have sex usually and i get my orgasim but she said she never does?.. its starting to make me mad becuase i want her to feel good during sex? any help

If I have sex with her, it would feel good for her.

I usually don't do this, but I'm willing to help you out.

Absolutely Unsure · 06-22-2007, 04:56 AM

Yeah, ask her to show you what she likes. Get her to show you, and then ask if you can try. Then get her to coach you, so you're doing it the way that she likes it. And yeah, try different positions, go to a sex store and pick up a positions book, and I agree with at least one thing: LOTS OF FOREPLAY!!

There is no O in BLT · 06-22-2007, 08:31 AM

Hmm.. For me alot of clit stimulation is best for bringing me to orgasm... I RARELY get to orgasm during sex with a guy. And it is never anything to do with the guy, it is just the way my body seems to work. Don't get me wrng, the sex is still pleasurable, but I just don't reach orgasm that way....

But do not make her feel like she has to reach orgasm during sex, because then it will make her worry too much about it. And if I am with a guy that I know feels like I should orgasm during sex I just end up faking it. which certainly isn't as fun as the real thing.

But try different positions, and I always love oral...

LUCY<3 · 06-22-2007, 09:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Phuck Buddy

If I have sex with her, it would feel good for her.

I usually don't do this, but I'm willing to help you out.

youre such a jerk.

speaking of jerk....i like what superxemoxninja said. thats usually how our sex goes, he jacks off, we have foreplay, we have sex.
but yeah when i first started having sex i found it hard to climax for some reason. but i dont have a problem now!!!
ha.

Symptom of the Universe · 06-22-2007, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by xoxo Betty Boop xoxo

Have more/better foreplay

Thats actually a good idea. Try teasing her durring foreplay, by the time intercourse actually happens, she wants it so bad she will reach orgasm

P.S. just because she doesnt have an orgasm doesnt mean she didnt feel good, its actually pretty normal, good luck!

P.S.S. Phuck Buddy: lol, you retard

Mayank · 06-22-2007, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Phuck Buddy

If I have sex with her, it would feel good for her.

I usually don't do this, but I'm willing to help you out.

You nearly made me fall off the chair laughing...ZOMG i am still laughing

Phuck Buddy · 06-22-2007, 11:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Mayank

You nearly made me fall off the chair laughing...ZOMG i am still laughing

I make a lot of funny posts. I'm finally glad this one gets the attention it deserves.

Suza · 06-23-2007, 01:52 AM

man, be happy that she doesn't act

It shows already some trust that she is able to tell you that she is not having an orgasm. and don't worry, it is nothing such terrible, you can also have good sex or fun without. But if you get one it is nice of course... you can try to make her one with your fingers first (if she likes it). good luck

xCadiex · 06-23-2007, 10:40 AM

i didnt read any of this ..so idk what other people said..but to have a better chance of giving her one...you need to have good foreplay meaning
...boost her sexual level ...if you just rush into the sex then most girls arent AS pleased with it..unless the guy is....VERY good..and theres a lot of women who dont reseve orgasims..sadly =/