People think i am weird..

Kat · 06-22-2007, 03:30 AM

Because i am totally against having sex! I may not be ready (could be the point here) but i honestly don't seem to attract to men in general. I often think i am gay or something because i absolutely hate the love routine between a man and a woman and cannot even do it anymore because i find it so wrong. My parents have not bought me up in this way so i really don't understand why i find sex absolutely unnatural. I am not so much afraid of it, yes i am a little but i could not really go and have it unless i fancied someone. But i don't. Does anyone else feel the same way over the oposite sex? It sometimes concerns me because i have no idea what my sexuality is, though i'm guessing i'm not straight because i attract to women better than men. People don't always understand me when i talk about this. They assume i'm just not ready or whatever but i really just can't seem to think this because i like the unnatural things.

Phuck Buddy · 06-22-2007, 03:37 AM

does religion play a role somewhere in this? are you catholic or did you grow up in a catholic home?

so easy way to test if you are bi, straight, lesbian whatever. When you masturbate/fantasize/etc, do you think about guys, girls or both.

both - you're bi (or at least bi curious)
guys - you are straight, just haven't found a guy you're into
girls - you're a lesbian

Kat · 06-22-2007, 03:45 AM

I am no particular religion. Can i ask what relgion has anything to do with it?
Like i said i do not attract to males really at all.
I do not think of either in masterbation, pardon?
I do not want sexual activity with either sexes but i would prefer a normal relationship with a woman rather than a guy.
I do not understand myself at the slightest to be honest. I do not ever think sexually for either sexes.

Absolutely Unsure · 06-22-2007, 03:47 AM

I kind of feel that way too, when you talk about how the opposite sex doesn't really attract you. I hate the look of a guy's penis, it moves on it's own sometimes, and that's just fuckin gross. I still like guys, don't get me wrong, but I'm not into chicks. I think chicks have way better bodies, there's more to look at, but I don't feel sexually attracted to them. And some people just aren't into sex. There's nothing wrong with that, that doesn't mean that you're wierd or anything like that. Some just don't find the need to have sex, cause you get your fulfillment by other means. you're not wierd though!

Kat · 06-22-2007, 03:49 AM

Oh i hate the look of them too, they put me off a lot!
And very true, i much prefer womens bodies. Thats exactly what i would have said.
I get a lot of people aiming this subject at me at college and it annoys me, makes me feel uncomfortable. Some talk about things, winding me up and its so annoying.

Absolutely Unsure · 06-22-2007, 03:58 AM

I think you just have to find a guy (or girl) that makes you want to have sex. You need a guy that wants to make you feel good, and doesn't worry about himself (when I refer to guys, I mean guys and/or girls). Cocks are disgusting, that's why I like it with the lights off lmao. But yeah I wouldn't be freaking out about it, you're just at a stage in your life that sex isn't THE most important thing. Lots of people are like that. Guys want sex all the time, that's all they think about! haha.

Absolutely Unsure · 06-22-2007, 03:59 AM

You're really pretty btw

Kat · 06-22-2007, 04:04 AM

I am not.
Thanks for the compliment , but i cannot agree with it hehe.
:P

I think you are right there though. Those that see me as weird are probably that themselves. I mean i don't like act weird or odd in my actual self, i just seem to find natural things weird lol

Absolutely Unsure · 06-22-2007, 04:10 AM

Well right now, I'm not into sex either. I'm occupied with my job, my hobbies, all kinds of stuff. I've been living with my bf for well over a year, we've been together a total of about 3 years, he asked me if I wanted to stay at home last night and watch a movie and "snuggle on the couch", and honest to God I gagged when he said that. I just really am not interested in sex right now because I'm working a full time job, I have hobbies, and friends. I don't need sex to feel good, money makes me feel good enough! And friends really help too. Sex doesn't make a person normal. What makes a person normal is to have feelings like you do. If you weren't worried about it, and were all like, "Fuck sex, I'll never have intercourse... EVER! And fuck you all that do like sex, LOSERS!" ...then we'd have issues. But you're perfectly fine, there's thousands of people out there that are abstinent by choice. They have the option to ahve sex, they just choose not to.

O1988 · 06-22-2007, 04:11 AM

well weather u r stright or bi it doesnt matter cuz either way ppl r gonna have 2 except u...but even tha u still young n shit so u got the rest of ur life 2 figure out wat u r..so just dont stress it n dont give it 2 much thought cuz along the way ull figure it out...n when it comes 2 sex it aint tha serous cuz not every 1 is ready 2 have sex at the same time some ppl feel betta bout it a lil longer than others'betta 2 find tha righ person rather than doin it cuz u felt like it n wish u didnt do it so tha can wait 4 as long as u want till u r ready

Kat · 06-22-2007, 04:22 AM

Exactly. I may or i may not ever want it. If i was gay i obviously wouldn't have it with a guy ever lol
But yes that is very true. Problem is some people don't accept what i am. Something i accept yes. However if everyone accepted each individual for who they are, there would not be any of this confliction.

Absolutely Unsure · 06-22-2007, 04:36 AM

If they have that big of a problem with it, tell them to fuck off, cause you're your choice and your choice alone. Don't worry about what other people think. People will jugde you for everything you do in life, there will be a handful of people that don't like it, and will trash talk you. Fuck them!