Hi guys... i'm new to this but i thought it would help me so i signed up. 've got a big problem. Please only answer if you've had sexual experiences and know how to help me out.

I've been with my boyfriend James for 9 months now and about a month ago we decided to have sex... Underage. We're both 15 so it's illegal but we're both ready.

We've had sex now about 6 or 7 times. The problem is that i don't enjoy sex. When he enters me each time we have sex it hurts. I really love him and am turned on by him so i don't know why i feel this way. It hurts for the first few minutes each time then it feels like nothing. I don't enjoy it or find it pleasurable. I've never cum during sex and desperately want to.

James is about 6 and a half inches so he's not small. I don't know what the problem could be. Sex is SO overrated! Is there a certain position which especially stimulates the G spot? PLEASE HELP! I'm afraid our realtionship will fall apart!

Different stuff works for different people. Experiment and work out what works for you.

I've heard doggy style is a lot more pleasurable than missionary position, so maybe you can try that. Or go get one of those sex position books from a book store and try out different things and see what feels better for you. As Tyler said, different things feel better/worse for different people. Also, try rubbing your clit during sex, as most women have a very hard time orgasming from just vaginal stimulation alone. Or you could try having him eat you out or finger you beforehand so that you're close to an orgasm, and then have sex, that might make sex better for you, because you'll be more turned on, and more into the experience.

Are you sure you're sexually attracted to him and you're fully comfortable having sex with him. A lot of the time it can hurt purely because you're uncomfortable, either with the position or with having sex. You gotta let your body fully relax.

I think you need to relax and not worry about whether you come or not as anxiety will reduce your pleasure, just enjoy the act of sex itself. Second if it is the beginning, you might feel a bit painful when you have sex as your vagina stretches to accomodate the penis. And third not all girls orgasm from vaginal sex alone, you need some clitorial stimulation either by change of positions (girl on top is a good one) or fingers or oral. Don't worry too much about the G-Spot, most girls don't have it or feel a change because of it, personally I believe it is over-rated.

And yeah, try long drawn foreplay with a lot of stimulation and try to get as much aroused as possible before you start the actual sex part. It will help.

You've only had it a couple times, so it's going to hurt. The first couple times I did it it hurt, but then after a while it was fine. When he enters you, are you wet? Because if you're not and he has to force it in somewhat, that may be why it hurts you. Try having him figer you or give you a bit of oral before hand. If you can't cum during sex, don't really worry, a lot of women can't cum AT ALL. I can't cum during sex and don't really care that much that I can't because I can cum during oral. Every girl is different, so it's no big deal. Just keep experimenting with your partner and COMMUNICATE. If it doesn't feel good, tell him and try switching positions. Also - maybe try ribbed condoms? They feel pretty good, but I think they're a bit more expensive.

If you'd like to talk more or have questions feel free to PM me and I'll try to answer them or I'll look up answers for them. :]

This could be the problem what the lovely Lady Moonbeam posted. you might only think you are attracted to him, but you're really not.


If that's not it, when he enters you, have him go in all the way and hold it there (fully inserted for a minute), then slowly start working your magic.

Maybe you're not producing enough juices for the lubrication action? You may need to get some astroglide to help you there.

Doggy style is probably the best way you can get stimulated in my experience, but its also different for every girl.

lube may be the way to go 4 now and its normal for sex to hurt the first few times
as for a position; u lay on your back with 3 or 4 pillows under your ass to where ur vagina is well above ur head ( ur also gonna want a bunch of pillows around your head and neck so u wont be uncomfortable) then he kneels like in doggy style (if he lays on top of u it wont work) in this position te g-spot takes a pounding
did that make since?

The first few times will be generally unjoyable, but if you're not entirely attracted to him, that might be the problem as well.

My advice is to be on top, that way u can situate yourself untill u find a spot that feels good and then just ride that shit lol..

Holy shit....not a smartass remark...


Well anything I would have to say as already been said so go with what everyone else is saying.

it's like a 50/50 chance in here. depends on if the questions is stupid or not, and also if I could make something really funny. nothing really funny here so I moved on.

Thanks eveyone for your suggestions.. i'm seeing James tomorrow so i will definately talk to him about all of this and take on your ideas =)

try ur legs above his shoulders it will hurt but it will be a good kind of pain ask him to gentle at first. trust me its my favorite poistion