My Question is whether people think of you as "More of a man" once you have had sex.

Is virginity just a title to throw away at the first opportunity or something to hold onto?

what do you guys (and gals) think?

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It makes sense to me.

I can understand this but I think it's stupid. I think being masculine/feminine/grown up a is prooved by knowing to do something (fix, cook etc) and especially by being honest, mature, reliable, wiling to help others, responsible etc.

Uhm, I don't feel much different from when i lost it to today. And that was Saturday night. So meh. Though i do feel more confident in myself.

Gender roles? I agree. I think loosing your virginity has more to do with maturity. Personally, I feel like by having sex, I won't feel like a kid anymore. And people who have had sex, I don't think of them the same. I don't think of them as adults, but there is definitely some kind of lost innocence.

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Tú me amas; Yo sabo tú hacer.

What about them? I'm not really big fan of them

This is very true, before i lost mine, i felt that they were more mature then me, but now i feel on par with them.

I was just asking if that was what you were talking about.
I'm not gonna lie, I do feel kinda... inferior to kids that have had sex. And it pisses me off when someone lost their virginity at like, 14. But I'm not about to go out and have sex because everyone else is doing it. It'll be more rewarding 5-10 years from now when I'm with the right person.

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Tú me amas; Yo sabo tú hacer.

I do see the point of doing it with the right person, as i lost it with a girl that i don't even know and hooked up with at a party, but i think it made it a lot closer considering we were both virgins. And it makes me feel better that we both lost it at the same time. And i don't regret losing it with her either.

No. I was talking how being reliable, wiling to help others, responsible is sign of maturity (and not having sex). And for me being "more of a wo/man" doesn't make any sense unless it's sign of growing up/maturity. I hope you undersatnd what I'm trying to say? That there is no masculinity/femininty, there are just characteristics of grown up and mature people.

Yeah... I'm lost lol. But it's ok I'm naturally slow. It's not your fault.

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Tú me amas; Yo sabo tú hacer.

I think that in a lot of circles losing your virginity makes you more masculine but, knowledge of someones virginity or lack thereof doesn't impact my opinion of them at all.

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And yes, btw, how "people" know you've had sex?

I wouldn't say i felt like more of a man, but i do feel slightly more confident in myself.

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~Kiwi

If you think having sex will make you a man you are wrong, and have a very immature view on what it means to be a man.

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To behonest i actually feel more mature then most people who have lost their virginity. Im an 18 yr old college student and i feel better about myself then those who have had sex. Its even crazy when people find out for the first time that i am still a virgin. I get dumb looks from them. And most people deny it. Hell even my girlfriend didnt believe me at first. She is also a virgin but wants to wait til she graduates from high school before she has sex which is in just over a year. and people constantly ask me if i can wait that long. I believe if you want to have sex then you should have it with somebody you want to spend the rest of your life with. Not just some random hook ups. Sex is addicting just ask my roommate, he has brought home over 5 different girls and had sex with them all and finds it hard to be in a commited relationship. I feel no different now then what i will when i lose it.