So, its took alot for me to come here and talk bout my problem
many of you will think im just some stupid clingy girlfriend, I partially agree.
Anyways, me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over 8 months now, and for his birthday (in April) he went round town and into all of these clubs.
See I knew he was planning it as it was his 18th, but he was arranging it for the tuesday after his birthday when everyone was free. I'd spent absolutely months saving my money and making plans for his birthday, and we were supposed to be spending the day together, although that never happened.
He came straight to mine after he finished work and I gave him his presents and wished him a happy birthday, he then told me that he had to go out for a meal and his first legal drink with his family and that he would come back and we could spend the rest of the night together. It didn't happen like that, I didn't hear from him until hours later when he told me that he wouldn't be coming back to mine and that he was having a few pints at the pub with his friends. Of course I was hurt because i'd put so much effort into the day and he just blew me off. We argued, and his phone was switched off for the remainder of the night.
I went to his the following day and his mum let slip that he'd crawled in at 3 in the morning, from town and that she expected him to bring someone else with him. \cue increasing panic.
He never told me that he'd gone to town, and we were arguing so I think that he went to find someone else, and he did.
I found out that weekend, after tears and heartbreak that he'd spent his night with two other girls. There was pictures on facebook of him letting them grind on him and letting them cuddle up to him. He didn't tell me about these girls, I had to find out for myself, I still have the images etched into my mind and cant get rid of them
It only recently came to light that he was left alone with them most of the night, them prodding him and flirting with him - and im assuming he returned them and he didn't walk away. One of the girls told me that she had tried to kiss him, and my boyfriend denies even recalling this.
What upsets me, is that I was layed in my bed crying my heart out and he was off spending time with these two obvious slags? Why did he lie? Why didn't he want to be with me ? Why was he with them? Why didn't he walk away.
I don't want to feel like this anymore, we just had the most amazing weekend together and this has just cropped up in my mind again, and I cant handle it.
I know he's wanting to go out again, and i don't want to stop him doing anything hewants, i'm just terrified. I can see this ruining our relationship and it makes me paranoid that whenever he goes out, he'll do it again. I love him more than anything in the world, he's my life and it would kill me to be without him. Tonight he left angry, and we didn't even say goodnight, i'm almost in tears typing this. I still haven't heard from him.
So how do I get past this? I don't want to lose him, but this is tearing me up inside.
many of you will think im just some stupid clingy girlfriend, I partially agree.
Anyways, me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over 8 months now, and for his birthday (in April) he went round town and into all of these clubs.
See I knew he was planning it as it was his 18th, but he was arranging it for the tuesday after his birthday when everyone was free. I'd spent absolutely months saving my money and making plans for his birthday, and we were supposed to be spending the day together, although that never happened.
He came straight to mine after he finished work and I gave him his presents and wished him a happy birthday, he then told me that he had to go out for a meal and his first legal drink with his family and that he would come back and we could spend the rest of the night together. It didn't happen like that, I didn't hear from him until hours later when he told me that he wouldn't be coming back to mine and that he was having a few pints at the pub with his friends. Of course I was hurt because i'd put so much effort into the day and he just blew me off. We argued, and his phone was switched off for the remainder of the night.
I went to his the following day and his mum let slip that he'd crawled in at 3 in the morning, from town and that she expected him to bring someone else with him. \cue increasing panic.
He never told me that he'd gone to town, and we were arguing so I think that he went to find someone else, and he did.
I found out that weekend, after tears and heartbreak that he'd spent his night with two other girls. There was pictures on facebook of him letting them grind on him and letting them cuddle up to him. He didn't tell me about these girls, I had to find out for myself, I still have the images etched into my mind and cant get rid of them
It only recently came to light that he was left alone with them most of the night, them prodding him and flirting with him - and im assuming he returned them and he didn't walk away. One of the girls told me that she had tried to kiss him, and my boyfriend denies even recalling this.
What upsets me, is that I was layed in my bed crying my heart out and he was off spending time with these two obvious slags? Why did he lie? Why didn't he want to be with me ? Why was he with them? Why didn't he walk away.
I don't want to feel like this anymore, we just had the most amazing weekend together and this has just cropped up in my mind again, and I cant handle it.
I know he's wanting to go out again, and i don't want to stop him doing anything hewants, i'm just terrified. I can see this ruining our relationship and it makes me paranoid that whenever he goes out, he'll do it again. I love him more than anything in the world, he's my life and it would kill me to be without him. Tonight he left angry, and we didn't even say goodnight, i'm almost in tears typing this. I still haven't heard from him.
So how do I get past this? I don't want to lose him, but this is tearing me up inside.