From the time you're 18 and older you shouldn't be jumping through your parents' hoops. As mentioned, you're an emancipated adult at 18, especially 19, and at 17 you could even have those rights.

I don't agree with them being authoritarian and barely giving you any freedom, because in my opinion that's just bad parenting.
However, if you are living under their roof when they are not obligated by law to support you financially, they got the right to place rules on you. After all, it's -their- home.

I mean, look at it this way.
Would you want someone waking you up at 2 AM when you got to wake up at 6 AM to go work so you can financially support said person ?

I think they have control over all of that until you reach 18 or 19.
I think you are an adult and you are ready to decide for yourself

As much as I hate to say it, until you leave their house. I think it's a little silly myself and I personally wouldn't do that to my kids, but that's a lot of parent's mentalities.

well they are just looking out for you although thats a bit extreme.... for a 19 yr old all those things you mentioned are acceptable... your an adult take it up with them.

Unless they're keeping her in a crib and have just started feeding her solid foods I doubt it.

meg.loomis wrote:

If they're letting you live under their roof, especially if you aren't paying rent, you abide by their rules.. If you don't like it, you're old enough to move out.

Old enough to, but that's not the only factor is it? I can move out if I wanted but I don't have the money and education also gets in the way.

Personally, probably 16, though the only justification for that is the laws in my area.

Well, I haven't had a strict upbringing. I have been sleeping over or having boyfriends sleep over since about 13; I don't think I ever asked to go anywhere, I was just allowed; at 12 the latest I was out was 10:30, now at 18 I am staggering in at 6 oclock.

But my personal rules would be:

-sleeping over a boyfriend/girlfriend's house
16
-going on a weekend vacation with friends
17
-having a job that involves working late at night until early the next morning
17
-going places without having to ask your parents if you can go
17
-staying out without a curfew
17

-sleeping over a boyfriend/girlfriend's house
Age 16/when you can drive.
-going on a weekend vacation with friends
18+
-having a job that involves working late at night
until early the next morning
At least 18, unless it's a bakery or something.
-going places without having to ask your parents
if you can go
17+/ when you can drive.
-staying out without a curfew
17+


You live under their roof (and are not in college or seem to have a job), so respect the rules or try to negotiate a little bit.

Maybe you were just not too reliable in dealing things around you so that's why your parents still in the essence of over protective.