I figured i'd come right out with it before anyone else called me a faggot. >_>
I've had a strange life, and been pretty isolated for most of it. My personality now is extremely serious.. it's not that I don't know how to laugh/have fun, I just prefer to focus on ways I can improve my life or the lives of other people.
I have trouble coming up with things to talk about, but i'm working on that part. I've found taking it easy gives you more topics for small talk, but that takes some practice. So a lot of times I just stop talking when someone approaches me.. i'd like to talk to them, but I don't want to scare them or hurt them by being my serious self, i dunno.
So like, what do people do when they're feeling serious but someone wants to just talk with them?
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Now for a slightly more negative side to my issue.
When I try and make small-talk it seems like people are either weirded out or downright offended. Like a serious (but friendly) person is not something they want to be around.
Conversely, a lot of what seems 'normal' to them offends or just bores me, like exchanging insults (as friends, i think?) or making jokes criticizing something.. it just seems so negative to me. It doesn't offend me as in , but more like "why would i want to be around you at all?"
What about this kind of socializing is fun or enjoyable? And (hoping to go soon) how can I get through college.. making even just a few friends.. without becoming isolated or pissing everyone off by not engaging in, or speaking out against, this behavior?
Long, but thanks if you read it. Even feel a little less confused about human behavior just typing it out.
I've had a strange life, and been pretty isolated for most of it. My personality now is extremely serious.. it's not that I don't know how to laugh/have fun, I just prefer to focus on ways I can improve my life or the lives of other people.
I have trouble coming up with things to talk about, but i'm working on that part. I've found taking it easy gives you more topics for small talk, but that takes some practice. So a lot of times I just stop talking when someone approaches me.. i'd like to talk to them, but I don't want to scare them or hurt them by being my serious self, i dunno.
So like, what do people do when they're feeling serious but someone wants to just talk with them?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Now for a slightly more negative side to my issue.
When I try and make small-talk it seems like people are either weirded out or downright offended. Like a serious (but friendly) person is not something they want to be around.
Conversely, a lot of what seems 'normal' to them offends or just bores me, like exchanging insults (as friends, i think?) or making jokes criticizing something.. it just seems so negative to me. It doesn't offend me as in , but more like "why would i want to be around you at all?"
What about this kind of socializing is fun or enjoyable? And (hoping to go soon) how can I get through college.. making even just a few friends.. without becoming isolated or pissing everyone off by not engaging in, or speaking out against, this behavior?
Long, but thanks if you read it. Even feel a little less confused about human behavior just typing it out.