I really need help with this. I'm scared, nervous, and freaking out.
Background:
I recently came out (about 2 months ago), after keeping it a secret for years. I started dating this girl a little over a month ago. She has prior experience, while I have none. We talk about my inexperience sometimes, and how about I'm embarassed by it. I'm also a very shy, very quiet person, so I'm not one who voices my concerns and thoughts.
Situation:
My girlfriend and I do some sexual stuff, but have never gone all the way. She has hinted at it a couple of times, and has even tried to go for it (Me stopping her by bringing my knee up). Last night was more intense though. She did her usual feel up while we were making out, but then it got more serious. She started rubbing me on the outside of my jeans while doing her usual routine, which didn't bother me. Towards the end of her routine she starting moving down to my belly, which isn't usual because she has tried before. This time though instead of slowly moving her hand down my pants and me stopping her before getting too far. She quickly went to unbuttoning my pants. And I'll admit I had a fleeting thought to just let her have her way, but after that thought I put my knee to give her the hint that I wasn't ready, and it took her a second or two to catch it, but stopped right away and didn't try again.
Questions:
I'm wondering if I should just let her have her way, and just swallow my fears.?
I'm wondering if we do go for it, what do I do.?
I'm also wondering, if we do start for it and I start to be uncomfortable, how do I tell her that without offending her? I personally don't think I'll be able to tell her to stop if she doesn't catch nonverbal hints.?
Any advice or tips you give will be gladly accepted. I'm extremely nervous and really embarassed about this, but I need help.
Background:
I recently came out (about 2 months ago), after keeping it a secret for years. I started dating this girl a little over a month ago. She has prior experience, while I have none. We talk about my inexperience sometimes, and how about I'm embarassed by it. I'm also a very shy, very quiet person, so I'm not one who voices my concerns and thoughts.
Situation:
My girlfriend and I do some sexual stuff, but have never gone all the way. She has hinted at it a couple of times, and has even tried to go for it (Me stopping her by bringing my knee up). Last night was more intense though. She did her usual feel up while we were making out, but then it got more serious. She started rubbing me on the outside of my jeans while doing her usual routine, which didn't bother me. Towards the end of her routine she starting moving down to my belly, which isn't usual because she has tried before. This time though instead of slowly moving her hand down my pants and me stopping her before getting too far. She quickly went to unbuttoning my pants. And I'll admit I had a fleeting thought to just let her have her way, but after that thought I put my knee to give her the hint that I wasn't ready, and it took her a second or two to catch it, but stopped right away and didn't try again.
Questions:
I'm wondering if I should just let her have her way, and just swallow my fears.?
I'm wondering if we do go for it, what do I do.?
I'm also wondering, if we do start for it and I start to be uncomfortable, how do I tell her that without offending her? I personally don't think I'll be able to tell her to stop if she doesn't catch nonverbal hints.?
Any advice or tips you give will be gladly accepted. I'm extremely nervous and really embarassed about this, but I need help.