Well, I'm possibly as confused as you, but I would say she probably just doesn't know what she wants.

Maybe she thought she was ready for a relationship was really wasn't. The kissing bit and her asking about meeting again make it sound as though she was trying in some way.

Or, she may be interested in just having someone who is like a boyfriend without having to commit to the title of girlfriend for herself.

I'd suggest just talking to her for awhile and make her make the next move. If she doesn't after a little while, then I'd set sights elsewhere, at least for a relationship.

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Well, I don't generally kiss a guy several times on a date if I'm not ready to call it a relationship, so that's all I have to go on. Perhaps you could try talking to her though. Be up front and simply ask her what is going on. If she's interested in you, she'll be honest and tell you. If she's confused, she'll probably say so. And, if she's not interested, she'll avoid the topic. At least, that's my experience.

You might have startled her by asking her if you were in a relationship with her, after the first date. That might scare me if I was in her situation. I mean you shouldn't really assume that you guys are dating just because you went on a date. Also I don't think the fb thing was a good idea. It does seem like she likes you, but maybe she's telling the truth and she's just not ready to be in a relationship. Don't lose hope though, i'm sure there's a reason, just try talking to her about it, subtly.

She wants the fun without the commitments.

I'm sorry guy, but it doesn't seem like she wants anything beyond what is essentially a possible repeat fling. She isn't up for commitment, and you can't persuade someone into that.

It doesn't seem like she wants a relationship right now, also it takes more than one date to be in a relationship anyway. She might just want to keep dating and not be tied down to one person.

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It doesn't seem like she is confused. She kissed you several times throughout the date. That isn't confused if she does it multiple times. It seems like she really just wants a fling and that you were chosen as it. Bad move telling her to change her FB status, that actually made me kind of laugh lol, sorry. Anyway right now you just have to give her some space. Not distance yourself but just talk about something other than relationships. Just connect with her on another level. Maybe the fact that you have so much in common changed her mind or at least made her wonder if the fling thing was such a good idea. It's definetly possible but don't get you hopes up. Just talk to her and after a few days, I'd say a week or so, start working your way SLOWLY, back to the relationship topic. Don't push her or ask anything of her. Just talk. Best of luck. Let me know how it goes.

Well, guy, the thing is, you don't seem to have made a mistake. Perhaps she thought it was a step ahead for you to want her to change her fb status, but honestly, most girls don't repeatedly kiss a guy that they wouldn't want to be in a relationship with. I wouldn't say there is anything you can do. She just may not be the right girl for you.