Sorry - this will be long.
My boyfriend and I recently broke up, and at the time I felt completely convinced that it was the right decision. Some time has gone by in the meantime, however, and I'm starting to miss him and feel compelled to call him.
What I'm looking for is just people who will tell me their honest opinion on whether or not we should get back together. The reason that I'm asking here is that I can't ask any of my friends because they know him and I don't want to be responsible for people saying mean things about him behind his back.
Long story short, he's the type who completely loses his temper when he gets mad. I always stay civil because I was raised to, but I've learned to just forget the things that he says. When we broke up, though, I asked him to pay back some money that he owes me (about 300 dollars), and he said some things that I don't know if I can ever forget. It was things like "you are so fat, seriously, it's disgusting", "go live your pathetic life you fat bitch", "your calves are so big it's ridiculous" (I do have bigger calves than the average - something that he knows that I've been very self-conscious about), "I'm so glad we're not together anymore so I can finally be with the girl that I actually love" and so on. I'm about 5'6" and weigh 143 pounds. I'm not sure if that's fat, but I've never thought so until I met him.
Obviously I'm not stupid and if a guy treated ANY of my friends the way that he's treated me, I would tell them to leave him and never speak to him again, and that's what I want for myself, too. It's just that with all of my emotions all messed up and everything, I'm starting to doubt whether it's really as bad as I originally thought... So please help me. Please, please, please tell me that it IS bad and that it IS unforgivable, so that I never get back together with him.
My boyfriend and I recently broke up, and at the time I felt completely convinced that it was the right decision. Some time has gone by in the meantime, however, and I'm starting to miss him and feel compelled to call him.
What I'm looking for is just people who will tell me their honest opinion on whether or not we should get back together. The reason that I'm asking here is that I can't ask any of my friends because they know him and I don't want to be responsible for people saying mean things about him behind his back.
Long story short, he's the type who completely loses his temper when he gets mad. I always stay civil because I was raised to, but I've learned to just forget the things that he says. When we broke up, though, I asked him to pay back some money that he owes me (about 300 dollars), and he said some things that I don't know if I can ever forget. It was things like "you are so fat, seriously, it's disgusting", "go live your pathetic life you fat bitch", "your calves are so big it's ridiculous" (I do have bigger calves than the average - something that he knows that I've been very self-conscious about), "I'm so glad we're not together anymore so I can finally be with the girl that I actually love" and so on. I'm about 5'6" and weigh 143 pounds. I'm not sure if that's fat, but I've never thought so until I met him.
Obviously I'm not stupid and if a guy treated ANY of my friends the way that he's treated me, I would tell them to leave him and never speak to him again, and that's what I want for myself, too. It's just that with all of my emotions all messed up and everything, I'm starting to doubt whether it's really as bad as I originally thought... So please help me. Please, please, please tell me that it IS bad and that it IS unforgivable, so that I never get back together with him.