Hello! This is my first post, pleased to meet you all. Here's the low down, I am a gay teen attending high school and ever since tenth grade there's been a guy I've been crushing on. At first I wasn't sure if he was gay and then I once I knew for a fact he was I was estatic....

Unfortunately due to my horrific shyness I never made a move until recently when, after prodding from my friends I decided to say "what the hey?" and ask. Then, imagine my luck when he said yes. I was wary because I had the horrifying thought that "what if he just said yes because he didn't want to hurt my feelings?" so I kept talking to him trying to make sure this was what he wanted and he assured me yes.

That night I texted him about making plans. I went by the mindset that if he really wanted to cancel he could've told me right then and there or not even reply to the text but he went on to make plans. Sounds good right?

Then the very next day in school we were talking and he pulled me aside and said "I don't think it's a good idea". Normally I wouldn't mind this at all but I started getting a few red flags when he started talking to his friends. I had asked him like twenty times if he was ok and he kept telling me "yeah" but he talked with his friends for about an hour (all of them are friends with me as well) and two seconds later he changes his mind???

Maybe I'm just overthinking this and maybe I'm just rambling but, I don't know. All the signs are telling me that his friends convinced him to say no but I'm afraid I'm just acting like a clingy weirdo, any advice?

Thank you for the response Dire but I didn't mean in rapid succession I kept asking, I asked mainly "are you absolutely sure about this?" maybe twice, this is what I get for being hyperbolic....but I get what you're saying. I'll try to back off, thank you!

That's so true, I've known him for a while so I guess I just let my nerves get the better of me, oh well. There are other fish out there, and...on a better note at least now I know what not to do! Thank you.