Why do I keep dreaming about my friend?

    • Why do I keep dreaming about my friend?

      Hi okay so I’ve got this mate of mine, we’ve been friends for about eight months now. she’s been at my school for the past five year but we’ve little to nothing to do with each other. Two years ago a group of us went to France for three weeks and we found out we had a lot in common and we became friends but them it died down after that until about eight months ago as I said. Now we’re good friends, hanging out together a lot, talking all the time, telling jokes all the time, we have lunch every Wednesday just the two of us.
      There was an awkward spell that happened a few months ago. For about a week, when I got ver nervous around her for some reason. So nervous that I couldn’t talk to her, look her in the ye or even be around her. I don’t know what brought that on but a few days later everything was fine. It was back to how it usually was.
      Lately over the past three weeks I’ve been dreaming about her a lot. I don’t dream often but I have lately and she’s been in there in almost every single one of them. Even if it’s not about her or she doesn’t a big role in my dreams, she still turns up even if it’s in the background. Most of the dreams didn’t amount to much and none of them have been a sex dream. What’s going on? I have no feelings for her other than any feelings you’d have for your mate. I love another girl and my friend has a boyfriend of her own. But why can’t I stop dreaming about her?
    • Re: Why do I keep dreaming about my friend?

      you obviously liked her before. maybe the dreams are like an aftershock....? or maybe the truth is that you do have feelings for her but your head keeps telling you that you love this other girl, that's why you think you dont, just a theory..

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    • Re: Why do I keep dreaming about my friend?

      catastrophe_girlfriend wrote:

      you obviously liked her before. maybe the dreams are like an aftershock....? or maybe the truth is that you do have feelings for her but your head keeps telling you that you love this other girl, that's why you think you dont, just a theory..


      I did have a crush on her five years ago but that died down. When I look at her, I just see my mate but when I look at the girl I love, I see the most beautiful girl I have ever seen.
    • Re: Why do I keep dreaming about my friend?

      You're definitely overthinking it. Nobody here can actually tell you what this means, so don't worry about it. There are far too many psychological ideas of dreams, from Freud to activation-synthesis to the idea that dreams are just a result of our brain trying to make sense of random nerve impulses. So while it might mean something, nobody here (or really anywhere... even professionals will all have different views) can tell you what that is.