i have this friend

sarah · Apr 28th 2013, 11:47pm

she is a very nice person and whatever. but she constantly knocks herself down and says that she isn't nice/pretty/smart/talented/[insert preferred trait]. i am okay with complimenting her once in a while because other than her constant complaining about herself, she's a cool person. but even after i'm like "no, you're a cool dude/pretty/whatever" she keeps going on about how she isn't

and i'm just like "why bother saying nice things to you anymore"

i have low self esteem too and i joke about it lightheartedly but i'm not sitting here constantly looking for validation and omg i'm going to end up punching her in the face sometime soon

xxLambeGlamxx · Apr 28th 2013, 11:51pm

well first off dont punch her in the face if shes your friend
secondly she just probably feels down with herself. maybe some personal stuff is going on at home that is lowering her self esteem. you should ask her whats going on.
keep convincing her that she is beautiful but put your foor down and tell her straight up your sick of hearig her complain...

sarah · Apr 28th 2013, 11:53pm

wow thanks for the gr8 advice emoblade i definitely will not punch her in the face

aquarala · Apr 28th 2013, 11:55pm

sarah · Apr 29th 2013, 12:25am

thank u for contributing

xxLambeGlamxx · Apr 29th 2013, 5:57am

bottom line is she obviously has a reason for the attention seeking
and you being her friend should find out what that reason is

Rayin' · Apr 30th 2013, 3:59am

I have a friend exactly like that. There's really nothing to do. It's to the point now where everyone who knows her just ignores those comments and doesn't bother.

Michaela · Apr 30th 2013, 5:05am

I can relate. I have very low self-esteem & despite near-constant reassurances, i dont feel any better about myself. & while its very flattering to hear, I doubt very much the compliments are going to sway her opinion. SO, like.. don't comment when she puts herself down.. & eventually she'll take the hint & shut up about it.

Flotsam · May 16th 2013, 8:50pm

You're being used as a sounding board. She might as well be laying on a couch
while you sit in a chair with a writing pad going "uh huh". I knew someone like that. We had good times together abut there were lots of times where he'd just ramble on and on about himself and eventually I'd just drown it out because it was the same stuff over and over. Maybe if you're a good listener and not say much, she'll realize what she's doing. Good luck with that. I know how tiring it can be.

jamick · May 16th 2013, 8:56pm

sarah wrote:

she is a very nice person and whatever. but she constantly knocks herself down and says that she isn't nice/pretty/smart/talented/[insert preferred trait]. i am okay with complimenting her once in a while because other than her constant complaining about herself, she's a cool person. but even after i'm like "no, you're a cool dude/pretty/whatever" she keeps going on about how she isn't

and i'm just like "why bother saying nice things to you anymore"

i have low self esteem too and i joke about it lightheartedly but i'm not sitting here constantly looking for validation and omg i'm going to end up punching her in the face sometime soon

I guess you deal with things - life and how you feel - you try and now you help as well - sure gets tiring - does it not.

So maybe just cool it a bit then you could suggest that between you you enjoy time together and no one mentions thier issues or asks for help -

candy067 · Jun 11th 2013, 8:40am

i have the same freind like you and i would they all are just attention seekers

wtfhappened · Jun 12th 2013, 5:16pm

next time she insults herself just agree with her. that's what i do when people are annoying for attention like that.

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