Mrs. Frazer wrote:

A girl posted something similar to you and I feel like the post deserves the same response so here is what I said (apply it to yourself as a boy obviously):
I am going to tell you something that NO GIRL has ever actually listened to before because when you're young and you get into boys all self-respect and common sense go out the window. I want you to seriously, seriously think about what I'm about to say to you, and think about what kind of life you want to make for yourself.

You cannot love someone else before you love yourself. Needing someone isn't the same as loving someone. You need to make sure you are 100% happy with yourself and have accepted EVERYTHING about yourself before you even think about starting a relationship with someone else. There is nothing worse than a self-conscious person trying to love someone else's 'flaws' when they hate their own 'flaws'. Right now you shouldn't even be dealing with this stress or the situation because you haven't learn the fundamental aspect of self-respect and self-love. And you know what, people will love you more when you love yourself all over, because you will ooze confidence and sassiness. Honestly.

This is coming from a girl who has slept with 10 men just to feel good about herself. I've been how you are now, and it can get worse if you never lose being self-conscious. I've given strangers blow jobs, I've slept with people's boyfriends, I've sent people naked pictures of myself just to get someone's attention. I would copy one picture and past it into another conversation, just hoping that one out of a million guys would want to be with me. This is what your future could look like if you don't practice self-love until you're ready to love someone else. And you won't believe me, reading this. You will think you're indestructible and that it won't happen to you because you're different. The truth is that millions of girls through this exact same thing...

I know that this guy is at the forefront of your mind and it's hard to resist doing something about it because I have been in that exact position so many times. However, in the long term you will feel so blessed to have listened to this post and watch other girls go through emotional collapses that you will never need to go through. You're a beautiful person and you should NEVER give yourself to someone until you are a fully wrapped present and they are a truly, truly appreciative person. Don't waste your time on crushes with guys that might not mean anything. Relationships are what they are because you intend on staying with someone your whole life. Being hot ISN'T enough. The guy needs to treat you like you were the only woman on earth he's ever seen. That's not too much to ask for because that honestly is what love is, or what falling in love is. If this guy looks twice at another girl, he's not ready to take things further with you. Take things slow. Don't rush into decisions. I care so much about you without even knowing you because this stuff happens all the time just to impress guys or because they think a hot guy is what they need to like themselves more.

I'm so glad that I stopped what I was doing because, through practicing self-love, I met the most amazing person I believe has ever walked this planet. I am completely in love with him and not once did I have to post something like you just did. When it's worth it, it's simple. You won't need to think about stuff like this. You will fall in love and that's it - you won't want to leave no matter what stupid things happen.

He is not the answer - YOU are.
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It's easy to get caught up with whether girls like you or not, but you'll find that girls will respect you and adore you so much more if you love and respect yourself. The question is not what you are doing wrong but how you can stop being so caught up on whether someone likes you rather than whether you like yourself. Be yourself, don't change yourself to meet someone else's criteria. Do as the comment says