Long story here. I'm in college, early 20s, never had a relationship/gf.
I met this girl in one of my classes last year around October/November. I've decided to kinda go with the long chase because nothing worth it comes easy.
Anyway, I asked this girl if she wanted to grab lunch without really talking or getting to know her much. It was definitely a little presumptuous of me--we had interacted in class just a few times and talked outside class less than that. She said yeah & gave me her #, but flaked when I tried to arrange a time/date. Shocker, I know.
Anyway, we continued to talk a little as the semester went on and we ended up in another class together this last semester. I didn't ask her out a second time because she had rejected it previously.
She started opening up a little bit. For the first few months I always had to initiate everything, but as the semester moved on, she did send a handful of texts and snapchats or came up to me in person to say hi. It wasn't much and I still have to do most of the heavy-lifting, but she was putting in at least a little effort, which I guess was good.
Anyway, summer rolls around and we live in different states about 3 hours apart so hanging out isn't much of an option. I've tried to keep the texting to a minimum because I don't want to come off as clingy or desperate. Since May, I've texted her every 4-6 weeks so I think we've texted maybe 2 or 3 times this summer. She doesn't initiate, but she always responds and her replies and pretty lengthy. I'm talking multiple sentence paragraphs. We talk about our careers, drinking, religion, etc. So it could be good, but I could also be deep in the friendzone.
I live in NYC and told her if she's ever here, I expect a text to which she replied she definitely would let me know. Obviously actions and words are very different so we'll see.
When we go back to school, I'm having this get-together with friends where my roommate and I cook a ton of stuff. I invited her a while back and she said she'll make time.
I just got a job maybe 30-45 minutes from her area, so I could try setting something up. Or I could just wait another 3 weeks until we move back into school. It's been a little over a month since we last texted although we do send each other the occasional snapchat.
My gut tells me she's not interested because 1) she flaked on hanging out when we first met and 2) she rarely initiates, but I have the mindset that if I work hard at something, I see better results which is probably why I've worked at it for so long.
We know each other considerably better now which could work both for and against me. I'm guessing I should just wait til I can actually see her and gauge her interest.
Ugh. Thoughts?
I met this girl in one of my classes last year around October/November. I've decided to kinda go with the long chase because nothing worth it comes easy.
Anyway, I asked this girl if she wanted to grab lunch without really talking or getting to know her much. It was definitely a little presumptuous of me--we had interacted in class just a few times and talked outside class less than that. She said yeah & gave me her #, but flaked when I tried to arrange a time/date. Shocker, I know.
Anyway, we continued to talk a little as the semester went on and we ended up in another class together this last semester. I didn't ask her out a second time because she had rejected it previously.
She started opening up a little bit. For the first few months I always had to initiate everything, but as the semester moved on, she did send a handful of texts and snapchats or came up to me in person to say hi. It wasn't much and I still have to do most of the heavy-lifting, but she was putting in at least a little effort, which I guess was good.
Anyway, summer rolls around and we live in different states about 3 hours apart so hanging out isn't much of an option. I've tried to keep the texting to a minimum because I don't want to come off as clingy or desperate. Since May, I've texted her every 4-6 weeks so I think we've texted maybe 2 or 3 times this summer. She doesn't initiate, but she always responds and her replies and pretty lengthy. I'm talking multiple sentence paragraphs. We talk about our careers, drinking, religion, etc. So it could be good, but I could also be deep in the friendzone.
I live in NYC and told her if she's ever here, I expect a text to which she replied she definitely would let me know. Obviously actions and words are very different so we'll see.
When we go back to school, I'm having this get-together with friends where my roommate and I cook a ton of stuff. I invited her a while back and she said she'll make time.
I just got a job maybe 30-45 minutes from her area, so I could try setting something up. Or I could just wait another 3 weeks until we move back into school. It's been a little over a month since we last texted although we do send each other the occasional snapchat.
My gut tells me she's not interested because 1) she flaked on hanging out when we first met and 2) she rarely initiates, but I have the mindset that if I work hard at something, I see better results which is probably why I've worked at it for so long.
We know each other considerably better now which could work both for and against me. I'm guessing I should just wait til I can actually see her and gauge her interest.
Ugh. Thoughts?
