From reading this title, you might think that I'm some kind of loser for listening to my dad's advice about looking for a mail order bride, but it's not what you think. I'm not some loner living with my parents in their basement. I actually have a home, insurance, all that adult stuff. I have not been able to marry anyone, not because for the lack of trying, but because my fiance of 8 years died in an accident.
Sorry to get so grim really quick, but it’s been 4 years since then and I haven’t been the same since. I focused on work and my career to keep my mind off things and privately grieving. I never found an opportunity to start dating again. I’m just out of it and have no motivation to get back out there. Truth be told, there was just no one like her. My fiance was an immigrant. We had plans to marry and have children. It has always been my dream to have children of my own.
I took my dad’s advice to go to mail order bride websites because I know I had to start somewhere. I find myself too cynical to be socially active or go to parties, so online dating is a safer option. If I can’t find anyone I want to talk to, I can browse ahead and move on.
So I’m trying AFA. It’s expensive, but I’ve been messaging a lot of women because the site makes it so easy to match with potential partners.
Anyways, I have a few question for those who’ve tried AFA or any mail order bride sites.
1.) Are the tours really worth it? It’s a couple thousand dollars and I want to know what I’m getting if I’m “investing” in it.

2.) Are scams plentiful and is there any advice you can give?
Please help. Thanks in advance. -Mike