Porn

    • Ok so I'm a 12 year old girl. My boyfriend who is also 12 has been with me for over 2 years. We are pretty close and best friends. We hang out together at school, go out on weekends and he stays at mine overnight every week.
      We kiss quite a lot but that is all we've done which is fine because I'm only 12.
      We are both going through puberty but my problem is I think he is developing faster than me.
      He watches porn almost every day. Is this ok? I don't like it. Does it mean he doesn't think I'm attractive or he wants more than just kissing? He tells me I'm hot and stuff but I'm worried he isn't getting enough from me anymore. What should I do?
    • Hello :)
      You should talk to him about it. Hormons can make boys do many sexual stuff. Maybe he wants more. But you are important. If you don´t want to go further, he has to wait.
      The best thing is walking about it. You know each other for 2 years, i am sure you can clear the situation together. You are worth waiting :)
      curious open-minded short but not so short guy from Germany. open for conversations/PMs, all topics, all ages, all genders
    • He tells you that you are hot and attractive. I don´t know if he has a reason to lie to you. I didn´t have a girlfriend, but i was surrounded by hot girls in school. They turned me on massively. But i still used porn often.
      curious open-minded short but not so short guy from Germany. open for conversations/PMs, all topics, all ages, all genders
    • Your first statement might be the reason.
      If porn is cheating is something you have to decide yourself. Some people are even ok with their partner having sex with others. You could ask him why he watches porn. Or if he wants more.
      I understand your concern. But it doesn´t need to be something bad.
      curious open-minded short but not so short guy from Germany. open for conversations/PMs, all topics, all ages, all genders
    • Whether you're okay or not with your partner watching porn is your decision but I would say that plenty of married people and people with active sex lives still watch porn. I doubt it has anything to do with him not finding you attractive. He just probably needs a sexual release, knows that you don't want to go too much further and uses porn for a release. It's normal. Like masturbation is normal even for couples who have sex Sometimes one partner needs greater sexual release than the other so masturbates and even when that's not the case, it's still common for them to masturbate. A masturbation and porn don't fulfill all the needs that a partner does. You fulfill a different need than porn - intimacy and romance, not just sex. And you don't have to give someone sex, just because they need sexual release. People are quite adequate of dealing with that themselves.

      I wouldn't feel that worried about it if I were you. You're not doing anything wrong. And, personally, I don't think he's doing anything wrong either - though, that is ultimately for you to decide. I suggest just talking it out with him if you are still worried about it.
      What's up, my dudes?