Ok. I have tried being a nice guy all my life, helped with everything that I can, held the door for people, helped them with what ever they need help with. I'm trying to get a girl I like. I have never had a girlfriend before and I need some advice for what I am doing wrong to impress a girl while retaining my sence of self. So would someone give me some insight into the female mind and tell me what I'm doing wrong? I need some serious help here.

Sincerly,
Brandon

Yea. same here. I'm quiet because I'm afraid I might say something wrong and screw things up big time. other wise i'm a butterfly around my friends. I think girls like a confident guy. I am confident but I just have troubles with talking to others. its never been my thing. i'm more of a listener. I think a good time on a date is just sitting infront of a fire on a cold night with snow drifting outside just talking with the one I love. I'm only missing one thing. someone to love. I have heard girls at my school complain about their bf being an ass. I don't understand why they're still with them. I'm just a guy who thinks that treating his girl right is the only way to feel like a man. A man should be able to say what he feels without being called a pussy. I guess i'm just old fashioned like that and its who I am. I'm not changeing but I do want to have someone who loves me for me and someone who I can just sit and talk with and still have a great time.

I hear I am all the time its just that, they say i'm a sweet heart and then I hear them say that they would love to be my girlfriend BUT then they complain about their bf being an ass and I just don't get it. The worst is when I hear my friends say it. Cause my friends are my life. they mean everything to me. so I try to help but they say I don't get it, they're right. I don't understand why you diliberatly hurt yourself when I'm here with arms wide open waiting for someone to love and treat with the utmost respect which you deserve. I just feel bad when my friends are in pain. I feel bad because I couldn't help them when I could have. I have tryed time and time again helping them. trying to make their lives better and better at the cost of my sweat, blood and tears but they never take my advice. I may have never been in a relationship and not know how it works but I think I have a good idea. I think a man should pay for everything. I think that a man should be with his girl when ever he can, no ifs, ands or buts. I just don't get it. I cry when my friends cry and I hurt when they hurt yet I can't be happy when they are if I know that soon it will end in more tears and pain. I feel like they take me as a friend and not a lover. Yes I know I'm not cute but atleast give me a chance. I may seem rude in school but with highschool there are thousands of ways someone can say something and you never know which it is so I just assume the worst and act mean when i'm really not. its just so as I can end their torment of me I have had for years and years. I am trying and trying, harder and harder to save everyone I possibly can even if it costs me my life but still. All I want is to hear some one say they love me besides my relatives and to give me my first kiss. thats all I want. is that too much to ask?

yea. I know karma doesn't exist but I guess all I can do is hope, pray, and wait for something close to a miricle to happen, because apparently I am not what a teenage girl looks for. I'm an intelligent young man who is much more mature then the rest of his age group but. I just don't understand the game of love. I try and play but my first move is always my last. when I preform a nice jesture I get labeled with the friend status.

Thanks for listening and encourageing me. Your a great friend. If only more people could be like you. If only more people could be as close to being a saint as possible like you. If only this was not just a wild wish from the mind of a Loveing dreamer

I'm not much older then you. I'm 16.

I guess you're right, I hope I find someone to chase and embrace soon.:wink:

it takes sometime + alot of effort to maintain it. by the by, I was hopeing of there also being a plane ride past the international date line and go south to meet a friend who I hope I can be more then too. Don't read into that. its just ummm yea its ummmmm *blushes* ahhhhhh mannnn you got me blushing again. How come you have that power over me?

lol. you like killing me softly huh? XD
and angelwings. no offence but I am fun to be around. time is the only thing that determines how much fun I am because if I just got to know you then I fear I might mess things up and then not have a chance. Once you get to know me more I'm more comfortable being fun and random like I actually is.

I don't intend to change at all. I just didn't understand why and how to make the first move. but thanks guys/ girls this has helped alot.:love1: all