Hmm... I don't know. I used to really dislike the way a penis looked. I mean, I never found that part particularly attractive to look at, but for the sake of sex I enjoyed it. Now however, I love the way my husbands dick looks, I find it a turn on to see it. Maybe it just comes down to if you love a person, or just really like that person you'll like every part of them? I don't know if that's any help.

But then I never really found anybodies (man or woman) gentalia particularly attractive. I enjoyed having sex, etc. But before my husband was really never particularly turned on by the genitalia itself. Once again, I may be no help.

Does the idea of doing anything sexual with a man put you off entirely? Or is it you just don't find the dick particularly attractive by itself?

Yeah, same. I would say I'm almost entirely straight but I don't really think the penis is an attractive body part. If you feel offputted by the thought of sex with a male then you're probably are more leaning towards being a lesbian, but it's up to you how you feel really, no-one can tell you if you're a lesbian or not.

"Offputted"? What am I on about... "if you feel put off" what was I meant to say...

aha, i know exactly what you mean.

like, physically i'd be more comfortable with a girl, and i find looking at naked women much more appealing than naked men.
but emotionally it's totally different.

i think it's moreso a mental thing.
i think you gradually find the opposite sex's naked body more appealing the more you see it. like, you need to get used to it in order to get comfortable with it, and then maybe even find it attractive.

no, it's not the end of the world if you don't find a penis attractive, and it certainly does not mean you're definately a lesbian.

Have you ever had sex before Kat?

Definitely, a penis doesn't look attractive. Then again, either does a thrashed vagina. Think of genitals like food... it may look disgusting, but it can still taste good!

Well you can date someone without having sex. If you like a guy for other reasons I don't see why you can't date him for those reasons and forget about the rest for now. Like boob lady said...you get used to it gradually.

Uhm. Just because you don't like men's dicks right now, doesn't mean you are a lesbian. Some people find men's parts just a tad intimadating, just as men probably find our parts intimidating sometimes as well.
Right now I think your problem is that you aren't mature enough for a sexual relationship which is completely okay.

Mhm. I see your point.

Maybe so.
In that case, you should just Bowchicawow with a chick and get it over with..

*shrugs* How should I know. :p

yeah, but think of it logically.

a vagina is bound to be more appealing to you if you're not sexually active.
it's a part of you, you've seen a vagina every day for as long as you can remember.
it's normal, it's a part of you and it's comfortable.


emotionally ... well. that is something you have to decide.