For the past week my mom has been going off about everything she finds wrong with me. She's told me upfront that she doesn't expect anything out of me. Basically, she keeps in mind that I'm going to fail at whatever I do.
Ever since my dad died it's always been about her. When she got mad at us, she would always bring up the fact that it was harder on her because she had to raise us on her own now. I don't think she ever realized that for us it is equally hard. We have to grow up now without a dad. She always made us feel different. She dragged us into support groups. When I told her I felt too different because i went to them she just replied with "well...you are."
I hate it that she doesn't get anything anymore. My dad was always the one I could talk to. He's gone now...and my mom makes me feel horrible about myself. Just a few minutes ago she went off about my 'lazy a$$ nonachieving self.'
I have my brother that I'm close too...but he's almost off to college. I want to fix this before I'm completely on my own here.
I just want to be able to talk to her again. I HATE this on and off relationship with her.
Please help. Any advice?
Ever since my dad died it's always been about her. When she got mad at us, she would always bring up the fact that it was harder on her because she had to raise us on her own now. I don't think she ever realized that for us it is equally hard. We have to grow up now without a dad. She always made us feel different. She dragged us into support groups. When I told her I felt too different because i went to them she just replied with "well...you are."
I hate it that she doesn't get anything anymore. My dad was always the one I could talk to. He's gone now...and my mom makes me feel horrible about myself. Just a few minutes ago she went off about my 'lazy a$$ nonachieving self.'
I have my brother that I'm close too...but he's almost off to college. I want to fix this before I'm completely on my own here.
I just want to be able to talk to her again. I HATE this on and off relationship with her.
Please help. Any advice?